Dado passed away quietly yesterday July 23rd in the Hilo hospital, due to complications with his stomach and bladder. I was with him in his bed for 32 hours. He looked deeply in my eyes and was very aware, almost like his dementia was gone. His family walked in 5 minutes before he passed. That was Dado, always the most considerate.
I have just driven the 2 hours home, stuffing grief so I could make it. But I needed to write this before I take a magic pill and lay down. I could not have made this journey with near as much strength that I have received here, it has been like a miracle. I am scared of the grief to come, but know it needs to be.
I promise, I will be back in time. God bless each and every one of you. Those angels that took Dado away are really rejoicing, I am trying not to be mad at them.
Coco, my heart aches for you. May you find solace for yourself that Dado is not suffering now. How well I know that you will suffer but I pray for strength for you during the grieving days ahead. So much love is sent to you.
Coco, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Dado.....his suffering is over but your heart is broken, I know. Much love coming your way.....take care of you now.....hugs......
oh Coco, its with much grief I read your message but as you say we rejoice in the fact they are no longer in the suffering throws of AD. may the days ahead be reflective for you and easy on the soul if possible. may you find peace. divvi
Dear Coco,this has been so sudden and shocking for you. May Dado now rest in peace,far from further pain and suffering. And even though no one here has actually met you Coco, you and Dado will be in the hearts of us all for ever. Sending you sympathy, love and understanding.
Coco, I will be thinking of you in the coming days as I deal with losing my Ron today. We had 55 years together and he celebrated his 84th birthday Tuesday the 22nd.
Coco....my heart goes out to you. Grieving is not easy and sometimes it may not happen right away and/or it may return from time to time. Try and remember what a wonderful mate you had and how blessed Dado was to have you at his side when he passed. Luv you dear one. (I haven't been here for awhile because I am having my second wave of grief and I couldn't handle all the hurt and troubles others are having....but, today I saw on facebook that Dado had passed...and I just couldn't complete the day without contacting you).
Oh Coco, I am so sorry. I wish you comfort and a warm place to hide for a little while. I know how much you loved Dado. I feel as though I know him from your writing about him. You have been a source of comfort for me on this site and I wish you some from me.
Coco and Mary, no words can soothe your souls and the tremendous loss you must bear. You have had a love many people never experience and although that doesn't alleviate your pain now it will help sustain you as you heal. Difficult days are surely in your future but you are both very strong and we'll be here to support you during some of those dark days. Your willingness to share your love and your journeys have made us all stronger and we will never forget your generosity. Now there are two more angels to guide us. God bless them both. My heart truly achesfor you both and I can only hope I have the grace you both have shown when it is our turn.
Coco - You were an exceptional caregiver and advocate for your dear one. Grief is hard - no getting around it. I'll be thinking of you and praying for comfort in this very sad time. Mary - my heart goes out to you - I understand as only one who has lost their love one can.
Coco and Mary, I hope you can find peace knowing that you were there through, not only the good times, but helping and sharing the pain and fear through the difficult times. They are finally released and in a better place ... may this comfort you. In remembering all the good years, peace .... comfort .... love.
I've never met you; I have seldom responded to your posts. However, I have read what you have shared since I came on this board. My stomach lurched when I read of your Dado's passing. My heart does go out to you. I know that you are living through what lies ahead for me. That does not make anything OK, but it does give me strength to see the grace with which you have handled your journey.
So sorry for your loss. I am happy for you both though that you had that 32 hours together so closely connected. I am glad you were able to ease him on over. You are such a remarkable caring person.
Coco ......You deserve some happiness now and I know you will find it. You did all you could do for your Dado as you have done for all of us here, and for Alzheimer's Awareness. My hope for you is that you will do as I have done and in a little while, you'll look back upon the worst of this as nothing more than a bad dream. ......Your Friend.........GeorgieBoy
Coco, in the year that I have been on this site, your grace and devotion as a caregiver have been inspirational. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband and wish you much love, comfort and peace going forward.
Coco, as you shared your journey with us, you brought your Dado to life for all of us. The world has lost such a kind and sweet man. I hope that you feel our love and support holding you up in the next weeks and months. God bless.
Cocco and Mary, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You ladies have been an inspiration to us aas you've travelled this journey. I will be thinking and praying of you in the coming days to come. May God Bless
Dear Coco, Your tender and consistent affection for Dado showed me that there was a way to continue to love your spouse even as AD ravages their personalities and memories. I will always be grateful for the trail you two blazed together. A light dims, but it is not diminished. My deepest condolences.
Your Dado had true beauty in this life because he had you. Your message to us reflects that beauty. The love and devotion you have for each other is eternal. I am so, so sorry.
Coco, Yes, the grief to come will be difficult as you say, but knowing you gave your all to Dado will help carry you through. I am so glad you were with him in the end - I know it meant so much to you to be there. I will keep you in my prayers.
Coco, I did not expect to see this. I've read of your love many times, so fortunate you had that for each other. I admire and appreciate your advocacy, we all need that. You have my thoughts. Betty
Mary, so sorry about your Dear Ron. We were married 53 years when my DH died peacefully, I know what those decades mean in your life. My thoughts are with you. Betty
Coco, your devotion to Dado has been an inspiration to all on this board. I know your joyful spirit will see you through the hard days ahead. Hugs! Gourdchipper
Coco,so sorry to read of Dado's passing.My heart aches for you,your love and devotion was an inspiration to all of us .Take time to heal from all you have been through.You are in our prayers.
Coco, please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. Take your time and grieve as you need to...be kind to yourself; your dear husband knows how much you loved him, and he is still with you.
Dear Coco. I am so sorry for all you are going through. As others have mentioned, I too always followed all your posts which were consistently filled with compassion, grace, and brilliance.
I look forward to you joining us again when you are up to it.