Ann, I second Wolf's motion. We all have important contributions which can be added and shared on the website. Please don't worry about your writing abilities. We don't care about that, but what we do care about is what you have to say.
Wolf, Yes I do believe that some women are very aggressive. I am sure that that makes you guys want to put on your track shoes and run for the hills. I don't care if times have changed or not....I was always in the mind-set that you don't call a guy unless he specifically asks you too. I guess I am too proud!
Shoot, here I am living in the waiting room for assisted living and I have a date for lunch on Sunday. He's eighty and I am 85 so I don't think we can get into too much trouble going to lunch. Now, what do I wear on a date???? It's been nearly 60 years... LOL....This is the 3rd time he has ask me and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Baby daughter says go.....
I'm not sure I understand, are both of you in the same facility? Would you be going someplace or just stay there? Anyway, listen to baby daughter and me---go! I am 83, gentleman friend is 84. Trust me, that 80 y.o. doesn't care what you wear, wear whatever you feel comfortable in. Maybe it'll be awkward, maybe you'll laugh, maybe you'll talk and talk and talk, maybe the only thing you have in common is your age--and that's a precious thing to have. Last week we talked about FDR's last election & about Wallace & I remember standing in my sister's front room listening to the roll call and how astonished everyone was when it was Truman. Those memories and all that you've both lived thru will give you a connection. We discussed Ben Franklin and I told him that a man I know in finance told me that 47% of homes sold in America are foreclosures--not good. We compare our blood pressure, hearing aids, discuss our surgeries, medications, our families, how we can't do so many things with ease anymore. And sometimes we fuss because we don't agree. I looked at your picture, Bama*, you're a cutie, You go, girl, and then tell us all about it. Let it play out--however that may be.
miss Bama! you said not to mention your name in the same sentence with cougar.. grin. well a woman dating a younger man is just that.. hehe.. roll tide! in more ways than one. happy for you and enjoy that lunch. !! and remember we are never too late for enjoying life again.! divvi
Bama...you go and have a great time. I probably am the major cougar on here....I was 13 years older then my dh. It never was a problem for either one of us. He looked older then his age and I looked younger then my age. But, we just never gave it a thought and he would always say..."I'm going to keep you young"...but, as you all know that didn't happen.
Betty, I live in an Independent community and the Assisted Living is across the street. So many of my neighbors have health problems and it is a matter of time before they move across the street. We have coffee at the activities house twice a week and this man is always telling some wild tales. Nobody challenges him so I decided the conversation needed someone to play the devil's advocate. Needeless to say nobody wants to miss coffee. That group needed some energy and Ron and I provided it. His wife also died of Alzs but he is not ready to talk about it. I am not ready for the dating game yet but he is moving back to Miss. next month so I said yes. He did say I could go with him and I ask him how much money did he have tucked away and he said enough. Shows how serious this relationship is but he is fun and he makes me think.
Bama*, I have a cousin -- a retired Methodist minister -- who started off just like you. In his 80's, living in an independent living community attached to a progressive living community. He'd lost his wife in a terrible automobile accident several years ago, and began a friendship with an across the street widow that he'd known in school. One thing led to another, dinners, theater, one thing and another and before long he was sneaking back home in the wee hours and hoping that nobody would notice. Visiting her sister here in Florida they had a chance to buy a mobile home cheap, and ended up fixing that up and wintering together for a year or so before finally tying the knot in marriage. And now seemingly as happy as bugs! So age or what others might think should be no deterrent -- go for it, and let the chips fall where they may!
Bama you truly rock. What a wonderful special lady you are. This Ron is so lucky to know you.
After visiting Dado yesterday, I got quite low. I almost makes me want to be open to a "friend". He is so sick, barely knows me, goes from saying he loves me to I don't like you, and try as hard as I can I cannot "see" him when I look in his eyes anymore.
It's odd, on one hand I think some male company would be nice, and yet, from this journey I seem to be really not trust anyone. Yuck, got to get over that.
Bama* - anyone who is fun and makes you think is worth your time, even if it's only for a month. But one never knows. After all, Miss is not that far from Bama.
Coco, I am not anywhere near what you and Dado have gone through, so apologies if I overstep with advice here. I admire your continuous strength and the devotion you have given to your DH. I can give you nothing back but encouragement, good wishes and cyber hugs. If you are not feeling trusting right now, that's ok. Give yourself permission to just be at peace with what you are feeling right now. And trust your gut. You will get to where you want to be in the time that is right for you.
Bama is Ron beating my time???I knew if I didn' get the side car fixed some jasper would show up whilst I was shovelin sneaux an commence to courtin ya
Awwwww..Don, I still loveyou. He's not really courtin me but it was more fun when we were combatants. He's gone all sweet and kind and that confuses me. Besides he's too intellectual for me. I like being the "smart" one. Ron...Don.. hey, that rhymes..
miss bama, theres nothing in the books in the 'after' that says you cant have two gents vying for your affections!! and with that said, i think your friends here already know just who the 'smart' one is! :))) you !!!
hmmm somehow everytime we have a conversation I feel a little over matched,think I'll go back to shovelin sneaux,at least the shovel don't question my booklearnin
Hmmmmm....Did I shave my legs and put on mascara for this??? It really was nice. He picked me up at 10 and I was home safe and sound by 12:30. I'd forgotten that men still opened the car doors for you. Nothing really exciting to report. Darn it.....
to all for what it is worth here is my two cents worth. while my DW was still here I could not find it to actually seek a partner as I was only caregiver, but I did search for and found a penpal. We used to write each other and support each other almost daily and there was consolation in the fact the she was very understanding of my situation due to the fact that her father had AZ. Even though she was and is still happily married she was lonely as her husband worked very long hours and she had some medical issues which prevented her to be out of the house much so we had a common thread. I have seen pictures or her and her family but never met or talked to her on the phone. Even now we still communicate and share lifes adventures she was a Godsend when I needed one and filled something I needed at the time which was someone to talk to. It worked for me just like this site has and for that I will always be greatful.