I feel like Cinderella. I am all dressed up and will be leaving shortly for a black tie formal. This is the first time I will be on my own without my dear husband to chat with and hang on to. I know this seems petty to those of you up to your elbows in poop. It hurts! I don't want to be alone. I don't remember being given a choice. At mid night it will be me who turns into the pumpkin.
Dear bluedaze, you won't be alone, we will all be there with you. You are a courageous, giving and wonderful woman who has given us all so very much. You will be Cinderella for the entire evening-no pumpkins allowed! Try to enjoy your evening and we will be there with you. God bless! Let us know about the event tomorrow.
Relax and have fun. Look around and find someone who looks like she needs a friend and chat with her. Who knows you might make a few new friends tonight and that is a good thing. Everything worked out for Cinderella....
Just have a great time! It will be OK. AD did not remove your social skills...you will do fine. Besides, after getting all dressed up...don't waste it.
Go and enjoy yourself for me. Talk to someone new, eat whatever you want and if you so choose have a drink. And then tell me all about it. Bama is right, it all worked out for Cinderella.
its times like this we remember how it hurts to lose so much. reflect and remember throughout the evening and know putting one step forward will help ease the fear. ((NORA)))
Nora, you are an amazing lady. You will do just fine. Just try to relax and have a good time. No, it won't be easy.....those thoughts of times past will creep in.. and that's okay. Cherish them, and keep moving! ((((((HUGS)))))) Wish I could be there!
Nora, I'd amend what Bama said: " Look around and find someone who looks like SHE needs a friend and chat with HER." I wouldn't exclude the HIMS if you see any of those who look like they need a friend (or just might be interesting to talk with). Have a ball!
Wow-I have never seen so many slender women is such lovely gowns. Most were black, low cut and full length. The best restaurant in our area did the catering and they outdid even themselves. Gala was really the word for it. As usual I got bored as did my neighbors and we left early. The high spot for me was hearing the bigwigs from the stem cell research facility share their plans for the future. The county spent a fortune to lure them here. They are partnering with a local hospital in Stuart which is part of Moffitt cancer center. All very exciting. Their goal is to find a way to teach our own cells to fight autoimmune disease like cancer and poss. AD. By the way-my feet are killing me. Not used to hose and strappy heels.
So glad you enjoyed the gala. It had to be nice to be out and about with other adults without the worry of AD. I am sure it had it's difficult moments, but being the awsome person you are, you made it. Sore feet will heal and you are on your way to healing. So happy for you. Hope your night will be good. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us,,,,, you know we are always here for you and need your advice..... Hugs and prayers for you.....
bluedaze-Glad you made it through the evening and had a fairly nice time.I would have liked to have seen the ladies in their pretty dresses. I have NEVER been to a black-tie anything,so would not know how to dress or act.Hope your feet feel better today.
Nora--After taking DH to a black tie event in April (our last together, I'm sure), I recently went to an evening event without DH--also one of my "firsts". It was bittersweet--I couldn't help but think how much he would have enjoyed being there. We have made so many changes in our lives, I guess we can adjust to social events on our own. Glad you went--it sounds like you enjoyed it, other than your feet!
Glad you had fun Nora, you sure do deserve it! The stem cell research sounds interesting. I've been doing some reading on it as it pertains to AD. Go put your feet up! Thanks for sharing so we can all feel like there's life out there!
Now that you have the first gala under your belt, hopefully it will be easier next time. I hope you have given yourself a good foot massage. They feel great after wearing heels!
At least it was for a good cause.
We all have "firsts" that we will have to go through. They are never easy, and we long for the days of yesteryear, but we can make new memories now......
I did indeed smile today. When LSU wins it reminds me that a very good friend is smiling up in heaven. Mickey was a die hard LSU fan and we had many a good time discussing the games.