No joking about the penis tape...This is real old school, but you can purchase a Texas (condom) cather to put on him at nite. IT fits like a condom and has a fexible tape type holder that goes around the top. The tube is short and you and drain it into the depends or into a small pouch that fits in the pj's or on the side of the bed. It is very comfortable (I am told) 2 decades ago we used these in the long term care military wards. The patients started asking for them b/c they stayed dry all nite. I am sure that some the health supply store still carry them. They do not cause infections like the indwelling ones and I think they use them on pediatric wards.
I love Ross stores. We don't have them here in Illinois but everytime I'm in Arizona visiting friends I make sure to visit. I always find great deals there.
well i love the rugs so much i went back and got 4 more 8dol each-and i put one in my back seat of my car where DH rides, first he says its comfy and it will be there if theres an accident or he spills a drink. i used the huge fluffy one again after washing it last nite and it works devinely!!!!! i have them everywhere and wash a load of rugs and its so much easier and tons more absorbent than anything i have found. and my doggies love it too and so i put a big one out in my laundry area and they are peeing on it like 'daddy'...!!and thats my story! love love..!! divvi
all the discount stores carry all kinds and shapes! biglots is super cheap if you have one, but ross,walmart and target have wonderful ones too just tad more money. BedBathBeyond is the ultimate for finery but watch for sales and their 20% coupons. i got one not too long ago there luxury quality for 15.00dol. all colors! works welli n the back seat i am sure would do over chairs.. i may do the same. divvi
Depends has a style that can be torn open on the sides and retaped for easy on or off. No need to remove pants or shoes. We call them "party pants" to ease his embaressment. cs
Bar'bra i believe a few days ago said she thought she should be designated the new 'poop queen'...well honey, only 2 days of poopy stuff isnt even going to make a dent in my crown.:) i still have it on and boy let me tell you i have worked for my money for the last 24hrs. the MCT oil,,UGH! gave DH the runs so badly and he only had a few doses. no more for us, coconut oil surpases it by a long shot for us. and by the way, the 'rugs' on the mattress with waterproof pad under worked really well even with poop patrol twice during the wee hrs and again on wakening -3 times in 8hrs..thank goodness i had lots of spare rugs !just rolled that sucker up off the bed, and soaped it first on the balcony with tide. then to the washer-and 3 complete baths were in order...so dear barbra or anyone else who is a contender you have to top this first....believe me i am waiting for an appropriate taker! and yes it gets 'easier' as time goes by...:) Divvi
Divvi, you can keep your title. I have dealt with it enough in the last 48 hours and have decided that I would rather remain the Princess of Pee and leave the poop to you. If I can get my husband to cooperate will be all set.
Divvi, I don't want your title either! However, I'm thinking about buying a lot of those rugs and laying them end to end between his side of the bed and the bathroom! Then I can just take them up and wash them and not have to scrub the floors every morning!
It's strange that he rarely has an accident, but dribbles when he gets close to the toilet and has his pants down. One day he thought the sink was the toilet, and I thought of Divvi........I'm glad I have a lot of Clorox!
ROFLOL !!!!!! ....... well my dears, I'm not sure being 'poop queen' is really all that special so I'm more than willing to let you, Divvi, or anyone else who aspires to such heights have the mantle:)
well if someone else comes along to lay claim to the DooDooDiva title i will willlingly turn my crown over to them but would like to remain as the Queen Mother:)) who takes precedence in case of "failure to deliver on her duties as title bearer" .::)) agreed? divvi
Yes, but divvi, there is something so charming about the alliteration of "Divvi, diva of doo doo." I'm not sure what other name in there would have quite the same ring to it! In any case, I think you win the title by virtue of longevity. :)
Thanks so much for the rug idea!! I have spent a couple of hours looking through the incontinence products and pads, etc... I have had a hard time with the pads move around or ending up wadded at his feet, so I had been using packing tape to hold them in place. It rattles everytime he moves and some nights he gets a thrill (I suppose) out of yanking off the packing tape about the time I get into a deep sleep. Talk about a wakeup! Whew!! Seems like the carpet would be lots softer and better to stay in place.Sounds like a wonderful idea!! Thanks again!! I am tired of washing sheets daily!! We do the pullups too, especially at night. The last three weeks have been very challenging, I couldnt use one arm after having a pacemaker put in so you can imagine trying to caregive 1 handed!!! I dreaded the pullups too but would tell him we just need to try this since you have been having accidents! To me the Depends brand are rough and scratchy feeling to me putting them on him. I bought a cheaper off brand and the do just as well if not better and hold a good bit but he must have the "fountain of youth" and FLOOD the place!! Divvi, I don't think you can much find anyone here that wants your title. We all seem to get our own titles. I am SOOOO thankful there are rewards for us beyond this lifetime!! We all DESERVE it!
decblu, i can suggest then you do try one of the largest fluffiest light! colored to match your sheets then -remember some AD dont like dark colors and wont lay on it. mine are off white and works well. i put the watrproof pads under the carpet and then a large carpet over those. sometimes a large patiopool towel over that just to hide it. no colors! you want it to melt into the bedding -its worked for me now for about 3wks. i wash some every 2days as needed but have replacemetns on hand. like i said try to find a tdiscount or it will cost big bucks. they are pricey if not at discounts.even target has them 30dol! the bigger ones. the rubber pads on the back of the carpets is ok but not waterproof! so put something under it. makes a big difference now to just take off the top stuff and not have to change the whole bed! hope it works for you, experiment! divvi
yeah, like a large tub bath mat. maybe 3x4? and lots of 'fibers to absorb" that covers almost his whole area of the bed! and it stays put with the rubber backing unless he tries to throw it aside- i just dont let him see it before getting into bed..it may not work for everybody but i am in heaven with all i have to doo(:)...divvi
yeah, i am back on this subject again! i am POOPED! and yes i meant a pun:) just when you like to think you have managed an upper hand on the 'how to's of AD' -well, let me tell you, the A.D. Devil himself comes to slap you down a notch and put you back in your place! i have been ceremoniously smirking my title as poop queen. today the AD Devil blew in with the force of a CAT 5 hurricane. started last nite with DH up/down every hr on the hr back/forth to the bathroom. never did a thing just up and back/forth for hrs on end. i was of course up with him to see what was up. nothing. went thru the whole nite and we were both cranky without sleep. this morning the eruption happened so fast i briefly thought of how they felt during Krakatoa's eruption. DH gave me the signal-uh, i mean a wave across his stomach that things were about to happen:) i usually get about 1min warning from that. i know from experience grab him and RUN to the nearest bathroom. not quite,, i quickly maneuvered him in-jerked his pants so he could sit and he decides to bend over-he wants his pants up!!, well-----i didnt know a human body could produce such force. it blew over the bath tiles/white carpets,wallpaper/him/me =it took me a VERY long time, with him sitting on the pot watching me wimper. a gallon of mr clean/2rolls of papertowels/bleach/and then i was ready to start on him. got him clean and as he was standing stepping into his depends-well you guessed-another explosion! and to round things out, as i was trying to grab paper towels to start the second round of cleanup, he pees in my face as i am on my knees trying to get him into the depends. well guys, he's still smiling and going about his pacing as i type and his usual hooligan antics-if i didnt strangle him today=i think maybe theres a chance we will pull thru this one too. placement time????? are you kidding?/ no facility would be willing to take him hes such a hooligan!!::))thought i'd reinforce how a really bad day can end -if youve had a good day remeber to give your spouse a hug/kiss, and if you havent re-read this one--Divvi
Divvi, I don't know how you stand it. I know our LO's aren't supposed to understand/know what they are doing but sometimes I wonder. I think you deserve a special medal and not one that mentions poop. Jean
divvi, this probably ought to go under the Giggles thread, but your experience today with the poop cannon reminds me so much of a story I heard years ago. It seems that this guy was staying in a cheap hotel that had only one bathroom down at the end of the hall, which was shared by everyone on that floor. By and by the guy began to get a strong urge to have a BM, so he went down the hall but found the bathroom occupied and the door locked, so he went back to his room, waited awhile, and tried again. This went on for some time, each attempt getting a little more urgent, until he finally decided that he had no alternative but to go ahead and do his job there in his room and then find some way to dispose of it. He looked about the room for some sort of container, but finding nothing suitable he decided that maybe he could just poop in one of his socks and then open the window and throw it up on the roof of the adjoining building to hide the evidence. Feeling lots better after relieving himself into the sock, he opened the window and did a big windup, whirling the sock round and round to build up momentum and did successfully toss it up onto the building. But what he hadn't counted on was that the sock had a hole in the toe, so his "windup" had succeeded in flinging a line of poop across two walls, the ceiling, the floor, and much of the furniture. As he cast about for what to do about this, he heard one of the hotel maids out in the hallway, so he opened the door and explained that he'd had a bit of an accident, and asked if she'd come in and clean it up for ten dollars. Coming into the room and spying the mess, she said, "Mister, I'll do it for nothing if you'll just tell me what position you got into to do all that!"
that parallell is too similar for comfort GChipper:) the good thing is we are in a good mood again today and off to have lunch..but with lots of immodium! haha..yesterday i was ready to throw in the 'sock' not towel..:) the only reason i post this stuff -well-is so those who find themselves dealing with this distastful part can see you can overcome the hurdles and stay sane- divvi
Oh Divvi....I hate to admit it, but I was smiling when I read of this latest adventure....sorry!
The only "explosions" I had to deal with were after he was bedridden....he got diarrhea and it went everywhere...it was in the front, in the back, up his back, down his legs, well, you get the idea. Of course, I was the only one here and I was trying to clean him up, get the dirty bedclothes off the bed, rolling him to the side and holding him up with one hand and trying to scrub him with the other...and, about the time I would make some progress, the next "episode" would start. I finally just got the giggles and told him that I always thought he was full of #!it but now I had proof....!
Keeping your sense of humor is about the only way to survive what you are going thru.....
Sandi, you are so right about the keeping your sense of humour. its the only thing that can see us thru this. thanks for your validating experiences as well. Divvi
I just re-read all the comments on this thread and had some good laughs. We have just entered the incontinence mode. After several accidents, I now put a guard in each pair of briefs before it gets folded and put in the drawer. Daily monitoring is required - If it is just a little wet my husband doesn't understand why we just can't dry it out and reuse it -uggh. A few questions for those of you who are in the 'guards' stage: He says he has to lower his pants to urinate. Is that what your LOs do? I know that Walmart brand is recommended for pullups. Is this also the best place to buy these guards?
The problem with the guards for my husband is that they would bend backwards, and the sticky strip would attach to his penis. BUt I think that yes, if the guard is going to work, it has to go over the hole in his briefs so he does have to pull them down. Mine wears the pullup Assurance briefs from Walmart, and at night I change him to a fresh pair (and yes, he probably HAS had dampness on the pair all day but until I see a rash I'm not going to worry about it any more than I did for the kids). I also, at night, put in a second pad, not a guard, but something called "double ups" which I have to pick up at a medical supply store.
He can't change himself. It's a lengthy process because he basically has a sore, more or less rigid, leg, must wear heavy shoes that need tying and untying (which he can't do) and remove them, remove trousers, pull off the "whitie", put on a new one, don the trousers again and the shoes again. So he has a twice-a-day change. Period, unless he soils them.
Now I know someone will say, but you can get the kind that have the tabs on the sides and just remove one and put on the other. Yes. Easy enough to remove without going through all that. Difficult to get on so that they stay up and in the right place. All I could think of when I tried them was trying to cinch a saddle on a horse: they puff their tummy up when you put on the strap and then it's too loose.
the tab ones didnt work at all for me. my DH would grab the tabs and pull them open and ruin more than we used. after they pull it open the sticky doesnt work too well. the walmart brand is good i really like the TENA pullups too. they fit thinner frames really well. better than the depends they have bigger leg openings. i do use two pullups one over the other. with the guards the same thing happend to DH as briegulls. its shifts and retapes itself to privates. no use there. to use the guards in the place they need to be they do have to cover the front area with in turn they must pull pants down to urinate. be sure the appartatus is pointed down just like int he depends or they pee everywhere! divvi
Twice this week dh has peed around the edge of the commode. He does not wear depends but he always sits to urinate and evidently he is not having "the appliance" pointed down because it is over-flowing the seat, or under the seat. I tried to tell him that but he becomes irrated and ignores me. So far, I am moping up after him. What are using to clean this up? Vinegar and water?
imohr, everyone seems to use what grabs their fancy-- sometimes i use fabulouso which smells good most of the time i use bleach water and soapy water. vinegar /water some use i dont think it takes the smell away completely after a while. get some of that odor spray that neutralizes the smell early on i swear the smell gets into the cracks and croonies and slight scratches in the toilet and seat and does penetrate after a while. very hard to rid that smell! i am considering just getting a new toilet pretty soon. too bad we cant neutralize THEIR urine first! :)divvi
ps my carpet cleaner guy took pity on me and says they use the old trick of hydrogenperoxide sprayed in bottle ontop of urinestains and then blots it up. i am going to try that . my carpets look great since they did them yesterday! divvi
I use clorox and water...and then come back with the Purple (Lavender) Fabuloso.. which I Iove! The toilet area is small and has ceramic tile flooring. It's always damp, or so it seems, either from him...or my mopping. I was always afraid that peroxide would bleach carpet and used vinegar and water instead. Interesting, that they recommend peroxide. Did they give you a measurement..."x" amount of peroxide + "x" amount of water...or is it all peroxide.
he used 50/50 in a spray bottle of hydrogenperoxide. if you have colorfast carpet and want to try -use it on a hidden area first! and spray let sit for a 30min or so and blot it up. wait 24hrs and see if its ok. i have off white carpets and it worked wonders onmine and i will use this for mine now. he did say vinegar/water only sets the stains ! says they use this in easter egg dyes to set the color on eggs..so that made sense to me iguess. i may try the hperoxide mix on my tiles around commode to see if it lifts smells as well. will update later-
i just googled hperoxide for carpet stains and there are millions of hits on it especially for CAT urine/smells. we know it must work it they are using it for that. google and see -.haha..
hope this helps! divvi
pss.update! went into bathroom and sprayed 50/50 solutions of hperoxide water mix. over commode and bidet areas/floors around the area. i see an improvement in the smell instantly. will do a thorough cleaning with it better later!
thats what i am using. the big brown one for about 2dol. be sure to test first, dont want anyone yellin later! they DO steam clean it after spraying it down and letting it set.. so that removes much of the hperoxide mix--
google it imohr and see -esp for CAT pee, we know how that is..:)divvi
"hydrogen peroxide for carpet stains" i would wipe it down well after to remove as much as possible.
ps i just read that they sell HPeroxide in dark bottles due to fact that when sunlight hits HP it turns it back to water! huh!!! so if you store some cleaning in a bottle make sure its a dark bottle out of the sunlite or you will be cleaning with watr only..
No entries since early march?? well i am 'bacccccckk" poop queen in all her glory..i hope if you are having a 'bad' day this gives you some rebound. my day started at 6am today. its now 9am- DH slept like a baby and i got a full nites sleep- was awesome. i should've know there would be a price to pay:) as soon as i awoke the 'aroma' hit me. remember all the happy ideas of rugs, pads chux or whatever we were using that works? well during the nite DH pulled them off the bed and onto the floor. i am going to have to figure out to remedy that so he cant do that again. i am now classifying poop patrol by the Richter scale like earthquakes. today was a 9.5..most are in the mid 6range. i have been at soaping up the mattress, sheets, bedding, his clothes, him, took me an hr to get him clean-HAIR! up his back- i havent seen it quite like this ..i have to say i didnt know if i would make it thru this round. he was SMILING at me the whole time during bathing. (*.*) what can i say? i was very cool and collected and had to recount to myself he doesnt do this on purpose:) -thank goodness there is a nice breeze from the south to air the bedroom and bath..i am here AGAIN to tell you it IS possible to get thru even these especially unpleasant tasks in one piece.. take a deep breath before you start, say i can do this for the person i love, and get to it and dont think alot. i promise you will see you are capable of even the unimaginable -divvi
Oh Divvi....that brings back some not so sweet memories....LOL...
When I had a very similar experience I was working at the disadvantage that he was totally bedridden and I had to do the clean up with a small basin of water...and lots of patience...
oh heavens no, joan!! haha.. after one of my DH 'spells' they'd be running thru the door like on the cartoons leaving the hole in the wood..haha. my DH is kinda like Nikki's lynne. he does NOT want strangers messing with his pants..period=even in early stage 7!. believe it or not its not that big a deal to me now. do have aides that come 4hrs 1-2times a week for my days out -if i am lucky they dont hav to deal with poop patrol as i try to get him 'done' before they come. i have had times they call me hysterical and i have to come back home. no big deal there either. i am resigned i guess ..i tell everyone my experiences cause they say it helps them get thru it better when their time comes. i am now having my coffee reading posts and quite content..can you believe it??? maybe i am certifiable at this point myself..hahaha... humour joan humour or you wont make it..divvi
and Sandi, glad to hear another veterans input. i cant see how that could be done with a small 'basin'..:) i will be using a huge washtub beside the bed if that happens. divvi