ok, on another site, we had some fun fingering out the people that make our lives suffer. its called the SLAP FEST! since we normally would never do it in person,, haha..it actually does some good to cyber-slap your most unfavorite people in your life..haha.. this is for fun and i dont wanna hear anyone saying how ugly and mean we have become! :)
me, i first wanna slap!!!!!!!!!! my 3 grown stepkids for never coming by, calling or visiting their dad over the last 10yrs-only on xmas or bdays when they want gifts..GURRR!!! SLAP SLAP! line em up like the 3 stooges! slap, slap, and more slaps. not one offer of an afternoons respite for me in all this time..(growling)
2nd. shellseekers stepson for sleeping his poor dad on the floor! DOUBLE SLAP!
and while i am at it, a feisty slap to my brother who is trying to be helpful but calls during the week and asks, 'what ar eyou doing for fun today? idiot! and my sister who enjoys emailing me from the ships coffee shop how much they are enjoying their cruises around the world...slap, slap!
Adding a front and back slap to his 3 children .who have 35 year old "issues" with him..and a back and forth slap and hard knee in the groin to whoever blew over half of our retirement funds and investments away ...
you mean hold em UP for you, after i got him he cant stand...heheh..double or nothin! and a hook under the chin for being so rotten. haaha. am i getting carried away here??? my agression is showing...that firespittin dragon is on the loose tonite..haha
You guys get all your frustrations worked out here because next week is "The Alzheimer Spouse Caregiver Week". Everybody needs to choose a day and arrange, if possible, for a few hours our to do something special for yourself. Does anyone know where that thread is I announced this on? Must have been a month ago.
nancy you cant tell me there arent agencies around you there in houston, that do inhome caregiviing...call one up and get signed up for one day/wk a few hrs out.. i pay around 17dol for 4 hr or 68dol /wk..on fridays. nice! get with it girl! divvi
I would like to slap all the people who say "She seems fine to me". This happened with family who came to visit dh's mom when his sister and I were taking care of her. She could rally for a day and be okay for a visit. Then lapse back into her "normal" self. We had to eventually put her in NH and no one out of town could understand why.
I LOVE THIS! Thanks divvi! I want to slap my daughter-in-law for completely turning our world upside down...again! She knows who she is and what she's done! (wink, wink) I'll never forgive her!
Slap to my daughter - when she left 2 years ago - she did without telling us. She arranged with my sister 'D' to take her to the airport to fly to TN to live with a guy 7 years younger whom she met online. This is the sister whom I had just spent the last few years rebuilding a relationship with. She said we didn't deserve to know cause we never helped her. Don't know what she calls watching my grandson (1 at the time) daily so she could go to the classes at the shelter where she lived; nor the running them to the doctor, grocery store, etc, or buying needed things for our grandson nor providing her with a cell phone (which we managed to grab as she drove away).
Double slap when I told her about he dad's illness, that those would be the last words her dad remembers her saying cause there has been nothing since except wanting her stuff sent or how horrible I am. She doesn't believe he has a terminal illness. The couple contacts since then has been calling for her stuff to be sent to her which we will not do. Her life is a mess.
Triple slap her for abandoning her two older kids (8 & almost 11) with their dad and letting his parents raise them. His family trash talks her all the time which only hurts the kids.
Quadruple slap my sister for agreeing to help her leave even though she did not agree with it. For not telling us what was going on. For hurting our relationship which she denies it has. This is the sister whom I had just spent the last few years rebuilding a relationship with. The sister we were here for from 2006-2008 helping wherever we could while she cared for her dying husband. Two years we could have been living our dream which now due to this disease is coming to a quick end. Life sucks!!
I’d like to second the slap of Grannywhiskers. A lot of what I’ve read makes caregiving sound quite easy to do. It is soooo different from that.
In one support group I went to, since we knew each other’s stories, including problems with family members, we talked about taking the name of somebody else’s relative and writing to them about how their behavior was impacting the people living with this disease. We never actually got around to it, but there was some satisfaction in imagining the people opening those letters!
I’d like to nominate DH’s entire family for this. He has six siblings, and last Christmas we got a total of one Christmas card from them. That gives you some idea of how much other contact we’ve had since his diagnosis. When I’ve heard DH say “I guess to them, I’m already dead”, it’s almost more than I can stand. In the case of DH’s family, I’d like to trade a “cyber slap” in for a real one!
a slap to my step son who moved to Costa Rica knowing his father had AD and never calls or writes. He came for Thanksgiving 2007, stayed for 2 days, went to NYC for the rest of the month, then came back for one night, and left at 3 am for Costa rica without saying goodbye to his dad. he, btw, was the favorite son. I emailed them to call dad on his birthday which he did, at 1:30 AM. He told him he'd call tomorrow.... hasn't happened yet, and that was in July 2008. they could be dead for all we know now, never an email, lett or call just to see how dad is. And BTW, before they went we lent them about 15,000 dollars to live on. We did get it back but I guess that's why we're not worth contacting anymore, they don't need us.
Up until Folly mentioned politicians on another thread, I hadn't been able to think of anyone I'd really like to slap -- unless maybe Noah for letting that housefly bring Alzheimer's and all kinds of other germs onto the Ark.
i love this slap fest. it is good therapy and a laugh too. i don't know who to slap. i'd like to slap the people that came up with the aricept commericals,for sure! they make me so mad. a slap to the people who have the nerve to tell me,"it's going to get worse",in fact 2 slaps to that one, when they haven't any idea what they are talking about. a good slap to the ones who say,if you need me,let me know,and never offer any help or really mean it. a slap to every one who just disappeared from our lives,after dh got sick. a slap to the people that the only time they call is because they want something. a slap to family that come and only stay 5 minutes,slap,slap. this feels pretty good. i've got to go think of some more i want to slap. i'm on a roll. jav
jav, how cute, your first line was i dont know who to slap and you slapped more in your post than us together..haha.. good for you, and yep it feels darn good!
i think i need to slap myself silly. i have put up with crap from people for years when i knew i shouldnt.:) SLAP! ouch, that stings.! divvi
FayeBay, I'd call that doctor's office if and wherever he makes an appointment and explain the dementia thing. You can do this. The doctor will handle the rest. I know they will not give Viagra to a person with high blood pressure, heart disease, and some other problems. I don't think they'd give it to a person with AD... but who knows. I'd make the call.
Ha Ha !! what a crack up!! I too would like to slap all those people who tell me how great my husband is doing.Another slap to people who think that when you are telling them your heartbreaking story your doing it for attention ( had that a couple of times) THESE are the people who don't believe alzheimers hits young people.I'm sure I will be back with more people to slap.
A BIG double whammy slap to relatives who, in spite of the fact my husband and his brother had never been close, didn't bother to notify us when his brother passed away A YEAR AGO !!!!!!!
I found out about his passing by reading it on the internet last month!
I had to tell my husband, although I was loathe to do so but knew it was the right thing to do. He was distressed, shed some tears, talked about it for a short while but now I think has totally forgotten about it.
slap to dh's family who called and invited me to fil's birthday celebration at a restatant and didn't even stop by to see dh afterwards or bring us any food. that would have been nice,but no,nobody thinks of us,trapped here at home,even thought 4 couples and fil pass right by our driveway,going and coming from town. i don't know why i even expect and hope for kindness and thought and appreciation to a brother that was always there for them all. i am very hurt and upset,although,i would have been supprised if someone had stopped,and brought food,it would have been nice to know they cared enough and thought of us. jav
I wasn't going to mention this, however, can not seem to shake the disappointment...maybe a slap will help. A slap to my youngest son for not coming by when he was on Spring Break for a week....he lives in the same city. I know he is very busy any other time, but he had a week off.
Well, I had to think about it too, but sure could slap dh's brother for inspiring him to buy the bull that's in our front pasture now. That seems mild compared to some of the other really deserved slaps here.. but brother needs a slap into some kind of consciousness that DH isn't able to manage our cows without help..in reality DH is NOT managing them. It satisfies brother when DH can talk about the old days and converse about the cows.. but he doesn't hang around to see that thats as far as it goes.
Kadee, since you mentioned it, may I have your permission to also smack your youngest son for not visiting when he was right there? I'm sorry, that must have hurt you. Sometimes I think our adult children don't understand the concept of "what goes around comes around." I know darn well we taught them "do unto others" and to treat people the way they'd like to be treated, but it just doesn't seem to take with some of them.
folly, You do have my permission, I really don't know what is going on with him. I know how busy he is, he is the Assistant Principle at a school that is about 1 hour away from his home, so he gets home late. But, he was on Spring Break, and we had not seen him since the last of February. He is a dear boy & I love him dearly, however, I am disappointed in him. He is a lot like his dad though, when my mother-in-law was still alive I was the one who suggested he call or we go to see her.
Kadee my dh was the same with his mom and dad. I had to initiate calling or visiting. I am sure they thought our absence was my fault but it was not. Thank goodness all our children call and visit. I am so grateful for that.
My husband was horrible to his mom when she developed symptoms of AD. Of course our kids noticed it. Now they go out of their way to visit their dad almost as an atonement-go figure.
Slap all those lawyers advertising to sue for everything under the sun!! And double slap to those disgusting ads for extenze - male enhancement. They use to be on only after 11pm, but now they are appearing anytime of day.
slap slap to those stupid girls gone wild commericals. i despise those things. you can't even watch some comedies or even fliping through the channels at night,which is the only time i can watch tv,after dh is in bed. they should be on the naughty channels instead of on the regular satelite channels. slap slap slap!
Slap to that poor little Sally Field, who bemoans the fact that while her friends have to take an osteoporosis pill every day, she only has to take ONE BONIVA every month. I'm so tired of that commercial I could scream. AS IF it was such a sad thing having to take a pill a day, - while most of us take many more than that and never think about it. She was a cute Flying Nun, but she gets on my nerves today!
i am on a roll now. slap slap to the neighbors who will not keep their dogs up and they come up to my house and kill my cats. i have one on his death bed now,nothing can be done for him,if he's not better tomorrow i will have to have him put to sleep. i am very upset. this is my little grandaughter's cat and she will just be broken hearted. slap slap,and a horse kick to the groin area!
i don't think it will do any good. our outside dog is not kept up and i am sur they would bring that up,i am sure he doesn't go down to their house,because he hates their dogs. my son just told me we had a young calf killed last night or this morning. he didn't see their dogs do it but after the calf was dead he caught the dogs with it. he said it had not been dead very long. we do have coyotes,but i don't think they would leave the calf there. something is got to give. i have asked them time and time again to put their dogs up,my son has asked them also. this is a family member and it will start a feud that i just can't handle.