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    • CommentAuthoroakridge
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019 edited
     
    June 1st, our weather is still erratic. Had our hay cut yesterday since we had clear weather forecast - now they say we may get some storms tonight or tomorrow. So unless they get here and get it baled today, we might lose it. Once it starts raining they predict it will rain every day for a week. I never knew what the phrase - Make hay while the sun shines - meant, till we moved here. Have to have time to cut it, rake and bale, if it gets wet during that time you have a good chance of mold. He cut all our fields so sure hope he gets here before the rain.

    Along with the weather my husbands behavior is still erratic. He is losing more comprehension of what words mean. Wants me to stop what I'm doing when he wants to eat, and cook for him. Feels strange to me that it happened overnight. Lots of little things that you wouldn't notice if you didn't live with him.

    We have about ¾ of our new floors laid. I am sooooo happy!! And DH, after fighting me for three years on this, thinks it's beautiful. And of course, he wonders why I didn't do it sooner :) I have till the 14th to get everything back in place and the upstairs done - not completed but done for now. Add in a doctors appt to that. I would so love to go lay on the beach someplace.

    Hope the weather is good where you are, we too have a smokey feel in the air but don't know if it's drifting down from Canada or more local. With all this warm weather and rain the weeds are getting as tall as the trees, not sure what they are, dh thinks they are pretty and they are in a way -- but they are still weeds. Maybe I can convince him to do a little work outside while I put the house back together.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    oakridge, since you started the thread can you go in and edit by putting (June 2019) in it then we won't start another June one.

    I saw the rain map on the news for the country, this is horrible. Flooding is a horrible way for so many people to start the summer.

    Glad the floors are getting down.
    • CommentAuthoroakridge
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    Sorry Charlotte, since I started with June 1st, I assumed :) I don't offhand see a way to edit the title. If you know how, please do.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    You can't change that. Why not have two? One's good for the summer and oakridge maybe start one called June 2019.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    If you click to edit your first post it will show up where you can change the thread name.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    It is summer - my car said 100 degrees. A neighbors big thermometer said 98. Inside the RV is around 80, so doing alright.

    Received a call from a girl I have known since 'diaper' days. Her husband died from they say alcohol poisoning. A close friend of his died a few months ago and he really started drinking heavily and smoking pot since then.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    I did not know that.
    • CommentAuthoroakridge
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    Never saw that edit on the right hand side, and wasn't aware you could edit a post once it's sent. Learn something new every day.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 1st 2019
     
    yes, you can go back and edit or add more to a post. That is why sometimes at the bottom of a post I will post an update.

    How is it going with your husband? On a spouse group in Facebook there is a woman there whose husband had a switch in behavior. Must be 'welcome to June' change!!

    I have favorites set up in youtube. I started my Elvis one at noon. It must go through all youtube looking for Elvis because at 8 it was still going. Some interesting old videos playing the last two hours. One was Presley giving a tour of Graceland - learned interesting things about him. Another couple were band members sharing stories of tours, recording times and just goofing off with Elvis. I have a Roku TV so was playing it on there.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 2nd 2019
     
    Been an exciting day - not really. My new computer of less than a month would not go online even though it showed it was connected. I know the internet was working because my kindle and tv would go online. Spent 2 hours online with tech support trying to get it to work - first with Costco's people then with Dell. Finally had to restore it to original which means loosing all I had. Thank goodness I had not done much to loose. An hour later it was restored to factory then the task of setting it up. One thing after another gave me problems. Did I say I hate Windows 10? Now, 7 hours later I finally am up and running. I have not reinstalled all yet - will do the rest later. It took forever to find how to turn the touchpad off. I kept doing a search to find out but nothing came up. The printer was the easiest to reinstall! I am exhausted.
    • CommentAuthoroakridge
    • CommentTimeJun 3rd 2019
     
    I think it was Windows 7 that caused me to switch to a macbook :) I too am an Elvis lover, bought his life DVD & CD's years ago, a gift from dh actually. Loved Graceland, so much of when he was young, which is how I always remember him.

    I really don't know about dh, some days are worse than others. I'm adjusting to this new guy I guess. he remembers the boys but if you just mention their names, or those of the grandchildren, he will ask who that is. Pictures are hard for him, I think he remembers them as little boys, maybe teenagers and now they are older with mostly gray hair -- I'm sure these pictures don't look like his kids to him since he always asks who it is. when I tell him, he'll ask to take another look :)

    Love my new floor, now the biggest job is getting everything back in place. I do want to go through things and not just stuff them back in -- but that's time consuming. Wish I had a big closet I could put all the things I'm not going to keep. Dh hates me to give anything away -- but I'm much more realistic. Crystal candelabras don't fit into our life anymore :)
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 3rd 2019
     
    Finally went to see him today. I had a dream last night finding him in bed hooked up to an IV because he wouldn't eat. He is adjusting well. Him and his roommate are getting along well - like two good buddies. Whitley was in the first place Art was in last fall and I had met his wife a couple times. He had not been shaved since Thursday so I got him to shave. He has 1 t-shirt, 4 polo shirts and his 'Mr Rodgers' sweater on; his shorts on with his PJs over them. I managed to get his pjs and shorts off and jeans on him, got two of the polo shirts off. He lost the parts to his CPAP mask again so had to come home and get the spare mask. Broke his glasses beyond repairing. When I came home to get the new mask and I also took him back a baggie of hard candy. I thought I had gotten them to agree to taking his CPAP into the office in the morning but evidently the word didn't get around. Hopefully it will now. He is eating with the rest of them now. It was lunch time when I left to come home for the CPAP so told him what I had to do and would be back. I was in the office talking when I got back, he saw me, gave him his candy, he smiled, waved saying see ya later. So happy he is settling in and has a friend.

    He refuses to brush his teeth so made an appointment for Wednesday to get them cleaned at a cost of $125.

    Oakridge glad your floor is done. Do you have a garage or extra room to stuff everything in until you get the time only taking out what you need?

    I didn't want a Mac because software I have won't run on them. Plus, they cost more.
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    I am still running on Windows 7. I got a notice from Microsoft a few months ago that they will not support Windows 7 after next January. I don't think this old low level machine will support Windows 10 so guess I will be buying a new computer later in the summer. In the meantime I am spending my money on my next cruise. :-). Smile, there IS life after Alzheimers if you survive it.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 4th 2019
     
    You can still use Windows 7, there will just not be anymore updates and fixes for it. As long as it is serving your needs I would not buy another one.
    • CommentAuthorbhv*
    • CommentTimeJun 6th 2019
     
    Been clearing the back yard where the grass died a few years ago. My brother was here at beginning of May and got the tiller started. Since then I’ve been raking and sifting the roots and chaff out of that yard. Then started tracing old unused sprinkler lines. I never understood why he decided not to use in ground sprinklers for that lawn. I think we put sod in there in 2008. He kept it going with a hose sprinkler til he forgot how to do that. I’m thinking 2008 might have been the start of Alzheimer’s cause I’m having trouble figuring these lines out. I can see why he gave up on it if Alzheimer’s was starting.
    I think I’m going to try drip lines and find some drought tolerant native plants. We’re on solid granite here. I have the beginnings of quite the rock garden
    I can’t believe how much digging I did today. Not bad for a 65 year old gal. Also fixed one sprinkler line. Was overjoyed to find I am the proud owner of 150 hack saw blades! Was wondering why it was so hard to cut through the measly pvc pipe. Aha! New blade did wonders.
    Also fixed a bunch of tools. Googled what to do for old dried out tool handles and it said boiled linseed oil. TADA. Guess what I found in the garage? A great big can of the stuff. Probably was Father in law’s from around 1950. Fixed the handles up wonderfully. Especially my hoe. Like I said, I’m working with decomposed granite. Went to Home Depot to replace the handle. None would fit. Again, probably Father-in-law’s. It say it’s 2lb. Their tinny replacement hoes would break in one day for crying out loud.
    Took out the old boot shine kit to spruce up my combat boots. Found an old pocket knife crusted with shoe polish. Cleaned it up nicely. Pretty cool. He probably got it as a kid. Maybe I’ll give it to his grandson. He had flight boot laces too. So I used them. Way better!
    Reminded me of the first Generation Exercise we had after we got married. I worked for the Deputy Commander of Maintenance so got the call at 0 dark thirty about an hour before Jim did. His Squadron was pissed he showed up showered and shaved before they got around to calling him. He said he wasn’t really prepared for the feeling of kissing your wife and sending her off to war.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 8th 2019
     
    https://biv.com/article/2019/05/bcs-first-dementia-village-set-open-langley?fbclid=IwAR1N8M9oJDoJT-8jvEvZ1Y7hVudwmOzb_iJB09LS12wBWGN8oBXtU6_hcuY

    Dementia village to open in Langley BC
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTime5 days ago
     
    Really quiet here. Hope every one is fine as can be.

    Son stopped by Tuesday evening long enough to visit his dad. Dad didn't know who he was - I could tell by his lack of reaction when I introduced him to his roommate, but had a good short visit since it was after 8pm. Hubby seems to be doing well. He underwear, socks and t-shirts are disappearing but part is he packs stuff up and sometimes is hard to find. They finally found the missing parts to his APAP mask so now I have it for next time. I found his t-shirts in his roommates dresser. Found four pair of underwear stuffed in a pillow - two were clean, two were definitely dirty. They are putting his APAP machine in his closet and locking the door so he doesn't carry it around. That is good plus he can't put numerous shirts on. But, his clothes basket is in there. I am going to suggest they leave it out then he can pack up his stuff in there instead of stuffed in places.

    Summer has arrived. Today is suppose to near 100. Yesterday I changed sheets to went out to a public laundromat where it is cheaper than here and they have big dryers so I only have to pay 25 cents to dry the sheets vs $1.50 in the dryers here in the park. The place doesn't have a/c and their fan does little, so it was hot in there. Before it gets hotter I am heading off to walmart to buy him more underwear and the dog needs food.

    Have a great day everyone.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTime4 days ago edited
     
    Thunderstorms here. It's going to rain all week. It's 70+ degrees though and my windows stay open day and night these days. We were in the 60 degree range just two weeks ago and yet everyone is glad that it's summer. If it got 100 degrees around here that would be the one day every two or three years it touches that. Global weather charts predicted that the north east would experience more rainfall in North America, and Lake Erie and Lake Ontario are at near record high levels. Flooding has been an issue in different areas like Ottawa. There's so much rain it's threatening the crops around here.

    Dianne's clothes constantly circulated in the NH even though her name was written on everything. Others stole things, Dianne stole things, and it wasn't uncommon to see her wearing nothing she owned but seemingly comfortable anyway. I brought her three teddy bears all of which immediately disappeared never to be seen again. I gave up on that.

    The one thing I feel bad about is that she hated coffee. She had one half cup in the 46 years we were married. I was feeding her lunch one day and had a sip of her tea. I had made a big point repeatedly that she was a tea drinker and hated coffee. It was coffee. She'd been drinking that stuff for almost a year.

    My Raptors are in Oakland tonight. If they win, they're the NBA champions. First time ever that the trophy will be won by a foreign country. Except almost all of our team is made up of Americans including the coach. So when you hear that Canadians won the NBA title, just roll your eyes and say "nevermind".

    Nevermind is what we should be saying about global warming too. Every geology graduate knows we're in one of the coldest periods in the last 600 million years. Ice ages only started forming in the last dozen million years. That's not a good trend. What's normal is that jungle extends across most of the planet, there are no glaciers anywhere, and Florida is a hundred feet under water. All of that is easy enough to prove but no one really wants to know. Well, speaking from Ice Age Central, what I have to say about global warming is "keep up the good work". I bet you never heard that before.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTime4 days ago edited
     
    I heard on the radio there use to be signs at the big glacier in Glacier National Park that said the glacier would be gone by 2020. A couple years ago they removed them since the glacier had increased 25%.

    I love John Wayne. Found another source for his movies at www.dailymotion.com - owned by a company in France. I usually watch my soap on it because the site is not in the US so shows the next days Young and Restless. Canada is a day ahead of the US with it.
    • CommentAuthorbhv*
    • CommentTime4 days ago
     
    We have a poster of John Wayne on the door from garage to house. Every time we came home Jim would point and say, with a big smile, “I like that guy.”

    It was over 100 for a few days here, but cooled down again today. I tried to use the BBQ last night and it won’t light even with new battery. So have to take that thing apart again. Could be wires damaged by critters or the switch or ignition module.

    Played golf and stopped by the cemetery. (The cemetery owns the golf course land now, for future expansion.) There’s been a temporary marker for the wife of another Vietnam vet. They made a new marker that has both their names on it. Maryanne is back together with William now.
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    DD brought the three kids up last week, and I put them up in the motel off the Thruway that has a free breakfast and pool. They visited here at the apartment, of course, but it's not really big enough for five people to stay here comfortably. We took the bus down to Manhattan and stayed down there at a hotel just around the corner from Port Authority Bus Terminal--which is in the heart of Times Square. We did the New York "thing" for four days--cost a fortune, but we had a wonderful time. I have really never been a tourist in NYC before--because most of the million times I've been there have been family visits (to locals) or work conferences. So the hop on--hop off bus, the museums, seeing a show with the kids--great fun.
    • CommentAuthorpaulc
    • CommentTime4 days ago
     
    I have been looking at reports about Glacier National Park. They all seem to come from one source, Lysander Spooner University, and seems very unreliable. All of the places trumping this report are right wing sites. It is the Internet echo chamber at work.

    I looked at Lysander U's faculty list. 4 people listed, none of them with any scientific background. Their web site looks like a joke, cannot find any information about them anywhere else. Very political.

    I visited Glacier National Park a couple of years ago. I do not remember any signs about glaciers disappearing by 2020. If there were and they were removed, it could have been by order of a political appointee. The amount of reduction of the glaciers (and disappearance of many of them) was evident.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTime4 days ago edited
     
    It was on talk radio and a guy that had visited numerous times. I can't remember who it was, might have been Lars Larson since he is one of the few I listen to. I found the local station that has The Dana Show, Lars Larson and then a show with local guys. I found driving back and forth when Art was in Walla Walla I found the time goes faster when listening to talk show vs music.

    I googled it. According to the article the sign was installed by Obama.

    https://www.dailywire.com/news/48287/national-parks-toss-signs-warning-melting-glaciers-emily-zanotti

    Another article which is a little different

    https://wattsupwiththat.com/2019/06/07/glacier-national-park-quietly-removes-its-gone-by-2020-signs/
    • CommentAuthorpaulc
    • CommentTime3 days ago
     
    I read both. Both sites are very dubious. They are political sites dedicated to global warming. Neither of them have ask the NPS why the sign was removed. They make assumptions about why the sign was removed with no investigation. Anthony Watts credentials appear more impressive on his site then they are. https://www.desmogblog.com/anthony-watts. All of these stories appear around the same time.

    A number of glaciers are completely gone. Looking over the past 100 years there is a definite trend.
    • CommentAuthorJan K
    • CommentTime3 days ago
     
    I wanted to share (and strongly recommend) three books I've been reading a lot lately:

    1) Before and After Loss - A Neurologist's Perspective on Loss, Grief, and Our Brain - by Lisa M. Shulman, MD
    The author writes from the double perspective of being a widow, herself, and of being a neurologist. She writes eloquently about loss, and also gives a lot of information about actual physical things that happen to your brain and your body when you suffer loss. The text of the book starts on page 3, and by pages 6 and 7 I had already started using a yellow highlighter to mark the passages that really spoke to me.

    2) Grief Day by Day - Simple Practices and Daily Guidance for Living with Loss - by Jan Warner
    This book has a quote and a paragraph or two for each day, on the topic of the week, and then has a small project, often writing, to end that topic. This book says so many things that I wish people would understand about grief--but don't. I really do wish everyone would read this book before they try to "comfort" people who are grieving. The author of this book is also a widow.

    3) Permission to Mourn - A New Way to Do Grief - Tom Zuba
    This book I've had for several years. It was the first book that ever said any of the things I wanted and needed to hear someone say to me about grief. The author said that this is the book he wished he could have read when he lost his daughter, and then his wife, and then his son.

    All three of these books helped me so much that I wanted to write a thank you note to the authors. I think the reason they are so helpful is that they were written by people who have actually experienced loss, as opposed to people who have "studied" about it.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTime2 days ago
     
    My son has been here the last couple nights. In fact he was here the 11th, then came back the 14th, so his dad saw him three times in 6 days. Today he remembered who he was - told someone 'this is my son'. Was good to see since on Tuesday he had no idea who he was. Made my son feel good. Now he is gone and the house is empty except for me and the dog.

    Last time he was here was last September for a few hours, then over a year before. So this is the most we have seen him in a long time.
    • CommentAuthorbhv*
    • CommentTime1 day ago
     
    Jan K, thanks for the book ideas. I haven’t got them yet but found one to try at my library website. “Life after Loss - Conquering Grief and Finding Hope” by Raymond Moody Jr., MD and Dianne Arcangel, MS. (Must be a pen name, don’t you think? She’s a hospice social worker.). They have some stuff about near death experience and it took a while to get to the point, but there was some good stuff there. Some of it reminded me a lot of Wolf’s stories. Not the eerie stuff... the more profound stuff.

    Charlotte, glad your son spent some time with both of you.