Today's blog is a request for more humor and love. No one knows more than I, how miserably sad and stressful living with an AD spouse can be. But through it all, there is sometimes humor, as evidenced by my humor section on the left side of the home page. It hasn't had any new additions in months - I guess we are all too stressed and hurt to find any humor in our lives, which is so very sad. I would like to add more stories to that section - Please read the section on the left side of the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com, so you will know what type of stories I am looking for. If you have any amusing stories - RELATED TO YOUR ALZHEIMER EXPERIENCE ONLY, please post them here.
Also, please read the "Our Reader's Love Stories" section on the left side of the website, and e-mail me your story, so I can put it in that section.
One day I got a call at work and my husband was very agitated. He said that two trains had collided right in front of the house and it was a big mess. There are no train tracks anywhere near the house and I could not figure out where he got this idea. However, I got him calmed down.
Later that day as we were taking our evening walk, I asked him about the trains colliding in front of the house and told him I couldn't figure out how they would have gotten there as there were no tracks.
My husband is now in stage 7. He still seems to remember me and sometimes even still tells me he loves me. One thing he hasn't forgotten is how to kiss. He loves to kiss me and they are husbandly kisses (a bit of tounge). Last week when I was visiting him, the nurse gave him his medication in ice cream. He had to kiss me after that. The taste of the medications was still in his mouth - second hand medication taste - blech! Its a good thing that their taste buds are affected.
Zfter my husbznd hzd been zfflicted with Alzheimers for awhile, we had our 50rh wedding anniversary. I didn't want a public celebration so our children had a dinner with flowers , gift, and cake at a local restaurant for a family celebration. A waitress asked my husband how long we had been married. He replied in all seriousness,"50 thousand years". Perhaps it seemed that long to him; I had a good laugh on a bittersweet occasion.
I went off shopping this noontime, gone about an hour and a half, and left my husband eating brunch. I came back and he was still at the table. Well, he said, I had an adventure. Oh, lord, I thought, and he's in his pjs..
I called the Kremlin, he said. And proceeded to show me how to do it: you push the buttons on the TV remote. What buttons, it was obvious - the ones that are on the plum and the peach stickers he'd just eaten, and he threw in our daughter's cell phone number there on the wall as well. Did they answer? I asked. And rather sadly, he said no.
My DH is in the sex phase, all things relate to sex. I don't know whether their testosterone levels are higher or what but mine aren't! He took a nap today and when I woke him up for supper he said I interrupted his dream. He dreamt that he went to a doctor and asked him if he could lengthen his penis. The doctor said "No Problem". So he made it about """"""""""""""this long. But when he came home and showed me he said I didn't like it so he went back to doctor and had it changed back. Nancy
Nancy, boys get in this stage (of being verbal and talking about it a lot), and our husbands revert to it. If his short term memory is shot, then you can say "good for you" and go into another room and come back and start a different conversation and hope he has forgotten for a while! Some still like to pet, others want more, and it has to be an individual choice you make depending on how you feel about it. Each one of us has different breaking points on various issues.
I look for humor in most things...because I'd rather laugh than cry. I'll warn you that it took my husband almost a year to get through this phase...I'm glad it has passed!