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    • CommentAuthorladylimbo
    • CommentTimeJun 30th 2018
     
    Greetings all... It's been a bit of time since I have actually posted on this site, however; I check in often and found over the years that this was and still is the one and only "place" where people get it, 100%. My husband passed away in 2017 on Easter Sunday. So, it's over a year now but I have been craving companionship for many years as when he was alive he wasn't alive, he was in a memory care facility for three and a half years and the years before that he really wasn't in my life as a husband. I cannot for the life of me actually remember when we had an actual give and take conversation, I know it's close to 10 years... So, no conversations, no future planning, no intimacy of any kind that would be shared between a married couple. For quite some time now I have been actively seeking to meet someone but have pretty much given up and am delving into my lifelong hobbies and reading and enjoying all the things I enjoy alone. Movies with a dear girlfriend, concerts with a group of friends, reading again, so I do have a life that I have glued back together even though there are some missing pieces but I really desire to have a relationship and it's very depressing to accept the fact that men my age do not want women my age. I am not a bad catch if I say so my self but that's my opinion only. On the same subject of Craving companionship... Even my spouse had a "girlfriend" while he was in memory care. Of course there was nothing going on, the facility kept a close eye on such relationships but my husband had a lady friend that I was very much in agreement with him having a special person. They would eat together, sit together at all of the music events, hold hands and walk around the facility/garden/outings. When I was still visiting him I would go in and put on my pasted on smile (more of a grit) and place my singsong voice at the ready to greet the both of them... I always hugged them both together in one big hug and would say "how are my two favorite people", they loved that. It was a gauge of how far gone my husband was, he recognized me in some world of his but certainly didn't realize that I was his wife hugging him and his girlfriend... He had her eyeglasses on one day and I asked him about his new glasses... he told me they were his old glasses... okay, roll with it like all the other parallel universe discussions that we would have... My final point is that people crave companionship, even those that don't even know who they are. So, for the rest of us in the so called normal world it's the same but so elusive.
    • CommentAuthorladylimbo
    • CommentTimeJun 30th 2018
     
    I did intend to post this comment under the Craving Companionship category but have apparently started another Craving Companionship category... Will try not to make the same mistake again in future posts...
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeJun 30th 2018
     
    ladylimbo, if you don't mind, I'm going to copy and paste your post to the original thread so that we don't have two running and so that your comments don't get lost in the sequence. That way this can fade over time but your comment will be kept in tact in the discussion.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeJun 30th 2018
     
    and don't worry if something similar happens again.