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    Many of those of us called dementia widows chose not to watch it. We've been there and done it.I did stream it this morning when I could fast forward.What are your feelings?
    • CommentAuthorbhv
    • CommentTimeApr 23rd 2018
    Hi bluedaze. I always smile when I see your name. Gosh I missed.the previews about 60 minutes. Good thing I didn't watch it live. I almost did that. I recorded it and will take a.look later.

    I keep having high hopes about some of these stories, but they always disappoint one way or another. They just don't seem to get it. They don't even seem to ask the difficult questions and certainly don't offer any solutions.

    But Hi there girlfriend. Hope you are doing well.
    Bonnie-I do peek in every once in a while. This site in its beginning saved my life and sanity. It's a shame it is just a shadow of its former self.
    • CommentAuthorAliM
    • CommentTimeApr 23rd 2018
    bluedaze, I pulled the 12 minute segment up and watched. I thought the reporter was humiliating Carol when he ask her if she remembered what a wristwatch was. He should have known with ALZ the memory is going, going, gone. It was helpful in pointing out that no matter what one says about never placing a loved one in a nursing home, the strong ex-cop husband changes his mind. Sad but true.
    • CommentTimeApr 23rd 2018
    I try to tell people to never ever say they will not ever place someone. We never know the future - how their disease will progress, how we will hold up or whatever will interfere - many just get angry at me.
    Charlotte is absolutely correct. Never, never, never promise anyone (a spouse, a parent, a disabled relative...whoever) that you will never place them. What you should tell them is that you will do everything in your power to assist them to have the best possible care and to keep them advocate for their wishes as much as you can.

    Remember that placing someone is still caring for them--just in a different way.
    • CommentAuthorpaulc
    • CommentTimeApr 24th 2018
    For those who didn't watch it here is the link. It is the last segment of the show.
    • CommentAuthorbhv
    • CommentTimeApr 24th 2018
    I watched last night after hb went to bed. Best story I have seen yet. No romanticizing, no warm and fuzzy claptrap. Alas, no solutions or recommendations.
    • CommentAuthorlindyloo*
    • CommentTimeApr 24th 2018
    You are right, bhv. It just showed what this disease does to both patient and caregiver. Does not try to soft pedal anything.
    • CommentAuthorJan K
    • CommentTimeApr 24th 2018
    This show was like a punch in the stomach. DH has been declining more rapidly lately, and this show pretty much killed the last of my denial of what this disease is ultimately going to do. I wish all the members of both our families would have to sit down and watch this. Maybe it would kick them out of denial, too. (Too bad the clip is so short. Having to watch 40 or 50 hours of their lives would be a lot more educational.)
    • CommentAuthorMitsou
    • CommentTime7 days ago
    Jan K – yes that was more than a punch in the stomach. I wish this show could be seen by many people so they could understand what a 24/7 caregiver goes through. The one thing that I understood well is that I am not the only one thinking to end it all, that after 11 years of care giving, alone, with no support, I just can’t stand much more. I looked on the internet and it said that more than 35% of caregivers think or have attempted to end their lives – I think it is more than that, because caregivers don’t want to talk about it.
    Mitsou, it's time to seek out that support. I'm sure others will be along with suggestions. Don't let Alzheimers get the both of you.