For some reason I feel BLAH! No Mac didn't forget it...he got a card for me with a beautiful verse and put money in with the card to get myself "something nice". We are supposed to go to one of the nicer restaraunts for lunch. We don't do nights anymore.lol. I don't feel like getting ready to go out and don't have clue as to why I feel down. I hope the feeling lifts and we can go have a nice lunch. Fay isn't supposed to affect SC's east coast that much so that can't be an excuse to stay home. Oh well, I'll try to do something and I hope I come out of the fog.
Happy Birthday!!! May future years bring you more happiness. I hope you are able to go out with your husband and enjoy your day. He remembered and got you a card! That's enough reason to celebrate! <grin>
Happy Birthday Jean! It has been so long since Lynn could remember any special date, I wish I had treasured the earlier stages more. Hindsight and all that ... I hope you are able to get out of your funk and enjoy your day!!
Thanks Mary and Nikki, When Mac got up he asked if I wanted to go today so I asked if he wanted to go next week and he said "yes". Is that ESP or what? I think I must be weird because after that I felt better! Thanks again for the "Happy Birthdays".
Jean21 - I know how you feel, this past weekend was his birthday and our anniversary. We were married on his birthday and he made the comment that he would never forget our anniversary. He is so far along in the disease (stage 7) that he has no awareness of the dates or their meaning any more. I'm not even sure he understands the concept of wife anymore. I was very depressed last week as we got closer to the day. I celebrated the day by doing nothing and taking time to relax. He had a normal day. We even got a couple of cards from people - that was upsetting too.
It always amazes me what affects me when dealing with this diease and what I can handle. It is not always what I expect.
Happy Birthday and my you have a very healthy year.
Happy birthday Jean. I hope you can get a fun time out.
My birthday was yesterday (Aug 20). My wife did not remember it, but seemed in a much better mood all day. In the evening we went to an upscale restaurant for dinner. She did very well, and almost seemed animated. Today is more back to the normal - she is sitting in her chair watching me type this.
Thanks Therrja and Marsh and belated Happy Birthday to Marsh we are both Leo's whatever that is supposed to mean! I am feeling better than I did when I got up. I don't even know why I was so down but as long as it doesn't stick around I'm okay. I just love this group and especially Joan for starting it.... thank you, thank you, thank you Joan.
Happy birthday Jean and Marsh. I always have mixed feelings with greeting cards. My husband has no idea what birthdays are about. Our anniversary is a farce.
Birthdays, anniversaries and the holidays tend to drive all of us into depression. My husband married me two days before his birthday, so I get a double whammy. It is in early February so last year I hadn't gotten over what will almost certainly be our last holiday celebrations.
Yuck.
But Happy Birthday from me to whoever is having one this month. Try to do something nice for yourself anyway. Let your children or other family and friends do something nice for you. And take care of yourselves.
Happy Birthday all birthday people in August. I really don't expect for my DH to remember my birthday. I will not be hurt when he doesn't because he rarely remembers my birthday. He always feels badly when I tell him that he forgot my birthday again. I won't even mention it this year because he rarely knows what month it is, what year it is or what day it is.
I think that you were unconsciously scared that you would have a bad time or a problem on your birthday. Now that you won't be having any expectations, things are looking better. I never like to make plans on the special days because it would hurt worse having a problem than not planning anything to begin with. And, by the way, Happy Birthday.
Yea, Leo folk!....mine was the 19th. August is a busy BD month. I had a lovely lunch with my daughter, and fixed a favorite dinner with a terrific bottle of vino....sort of what I have done in the past. My husband has never been a gift or even card person often to my dismay, but that's okay. I got three wonderful handmade cards from my grand sons and that works for me!
Oh Jean, Happy Birthday. Mine was 2 weeks ago and it was the first one without my husband being home and it was more than BLAH, spent 2 days crying. Enjoy every birthday and special occasion as possible now for soon it will have no significance to him.
September 30 will be our 25th anniversary but will do as much with him as possible to have as much meaning as possible.
Thanks everyone, I know I shouldn't have been so down when many of you are going through much worse things than I. I just couldn't raise any enthusiasm to get ready and go out. Normally I will go eat out at the drop of a hat! To everyone having a birthday this month and in the months to come I wish you a wonderful day and a day with your LO having good monents. God Bless
To everyone who has a a birthday lately or this month! """happpyy birthday to you, lalalalla, la..deda."""..
Lately, when i go somewhere with my DH its comforting to have him with me and not have to worry about leaving him at home with the aide, but i still feel alone- and if it were to be any special day, it would be rather meaningless not to be able to share that with the person you love and get reciprocal feelings...
anyway, we understand, and wish each of you a special and happy year! divvi
Happy Birthday to all of you August "babies". I read where there were more babies born in August than any other month. Must be those long cold winters. LOL
Oh my goodness!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY to all of y'all!! My husb shared a bday on the 19th with Kathi37 ~ We did celebrate but when he was told he was 63, he seemed "surprised"...He got an EASY BUTTON from one of our daughters...he's been 'mocking' the guy's voice (very deep) for days now :) It is a FUN gift & will be used LOTS around here, I'm sure. Esp when something goes very well...he just giggles & giggles :) And the "home-made" card thing works great!! I told our dtr to just send a pic of herself with a note...she did just that on 8x10 photopaper...He has LOVED looking @ it more than any card she could have picked :) Birthdays are good for our loved ones...not so much for us, maybe, so for you care-givers who have celebrated this month, hugs & kisses to you, from Texas ~ xoxoxoxo
Thanks Folks. I just thought of something...no one has asked how old I am. An even bigger thankyou for not asking.LOL. As my Mom used to say "That's for me to know and you to find out".
Well, I don't care who knows how old I am.....61 this year and I can't believe it.....I sure don't feel that old and I don't look or act like it...I guess what they say is true....60 is the new 40...! LOL......
Sandi, I am past the new 40's so I need a name for the next step. Most days I don't think of myself as old or even middle age so I will stick with Forever Young. :-O
All holidays can be a bummer at first, then you just get use to it. I have wrapped the same 2 gifts for Lynn to give to me, for every holiday 5 years running! LOL
I'll never remember all these dates--So (smile) a very happy birthday to all you August babies. I realize things have changed, but perhaps buying yourself some flowers or some new perfume would help. And Marsh and you other people of the male persuasion, Get yourself some new after shave, or a great new magazine or book that you've been really wanting.
Let's live it up. We only go through this life once (and there are days when I say "Thank Heaven) but while we're there we might as well dance. I read that some place.
BTW, our anniversary, my b'day were both forgotten. However, he did remember his own b'day. (go figure!) smile
Nikki, that reminds me of what I did for my daughter when she was two at Christmas. We were really struggling and had a four and a half year old son also. We got most of the presents for him and is wasn't many. For her, we got her a doll, a stuffed animal and wrapped two really big boxes, empty. She had more fun with the empty boxes than the toys, son did also. They played and played for hours in those boxes.
Now, that's funny. I'd have never thought of wrapping the empty boxes. I'd probably have just given them the boxes. How come little kids love empty boxes so much? I think maybe we're all missing something. Thanks for a fun story.
What a great idea! You reminded me of a Christmas when our two-year old great-niece got a doll in a box with a cellophane insert in one side so you could see the doll. She took the doll out and spent hours putting her feet in the box and watching her toes wiggle through the cellophane. The doll was totally unnecessary!
Since he won't know the difference I take a nice shirt out of husband's drawer, gift wrap it and everybody's happy. At this point the effort is useless as he doesn't understand the concept.