I have been gone awhile coping with depression and feeling like I the smallest things are Mountains and not on this Dite much at all other than to read. But I felt that I should let those of you who may remember me know that my husband died tonight. All 4 of his children came and said their goodbyes, including our oldest who lives 4 hour’s away. His best friend was also there with us all day and didn’t leave until he was gone. My girls and I were at his bedside when he stopped breathing. It went really fast as the Hospice nurse and the nurse at the facility only called me this morning about 8:30. So, in just roughly 12 hrs he was gone. I was able to cry somewhat for the first time in a while. My head is exploding with such a headache and I didn’t make arrangements. I read the thread about that and thought to myself, “I really need to do that”. I am emotionally exhausted and numb right now. I’m worried about my son who is the youngest at 19 and what he’s feeling. He did go in by himself and at least sit with father for a while. I encouraged him to talk to him and tell him everything he wanted him to know. All the girls each had a turn as well as did I. I crawled in bed with him one last time and cuddled up with him. The love of my life is finally free at 63 years young. I will miss him so much. He Was my soul mate and I know he loved me with all his heart, the good and the bad.
I am so sorry, Sass. Sixty-three is much too young, especially when he leaves a young family. I am so glad that you were all there for him and for each other. I will be thinking of you all in the days to come.
I remember you too Sass. I'm sorry for your loss. May the depth of the truths eventually outweigh the sorrow. While everyone has lost him, he is at peace from this terrible ordeal.
I was shocked when I read his age and thought how young that is - and then realized my wife was 64 when she passed. Funeral homes and the hospice are familiar with last minute arrangements. Perhaps the hospice can recommend someone they have a good opinion of.
Sass, I remember when you had to make the decision to place your husband. He was so young, and it was very tragic. I am very sorry for the saddest that surrounds you at this difficult time. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
Sass, I send my sincere sympathy to you. I hope you and your children will find comfort while supporting each other during this sad time. Just know that you did your best and that was all you could do.
(((hugs))) Sass. So glad the passing was so peaceful. Now try to rest when you can because the next days and weeks will be hard. Hugs to all your kids too.
Sass, I am glad you were all able to be with him through his passing. I know you must be deeply exhausted. Take very good care of yourself, and reach out to others who can help you with arrangements. Take as much time as you need. My deepest sympathy to you.
Sass, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Please look after you now and try and get the rest you need. I love what George said above - at nearly three years in (my husband was just 65), I can attest to this, as can many others here. In time, the happy memories you shared will bring you much comfort. Take care.
Thanks to all of you for the kind words. I showed this thread to my oldest and she was moved by what George wrote. I was too and thought that it would be a great thing to say at his funeral. My older girls and I made many arrangements on Saturday. I’m going tomorrow to talk with the church. We decided to cremate and not wait until the ashes are back for the memorial service. I’m ready for closure and 2-3 more weeks just might kill me. It runs into Easter and is just making the timing more difficult since I’m trying to limit the time the children have to take off work. I know I shouldn’t be worrying about that but the mother and caretaker is always looking out for her children. As for family members who have been MIA, I’m not worried about their inconvenience at all. I was touched that all 4 of my children posted on social media beautiful tributes to their father. My son surprising me the most since his was first. I feel like I should feel more sad and cry, but I can’t. I think the numbness has taken over and I don’t think that’s normal. I don’t know. I’m just not sure it’s ever going to hit me that he’s gone for good. I stare at pictures and drink in the memories and share stories about him. Maybe when the funeral is over and I’m all alone it will hit me.