Charlotte, this is too weird. My hb has lately been getting in the wrong side of the bed, asking me where he is to sleep, where I sleep, is this our place, taking the bedspread off and turning it around or putting it in another room.
Respite didn't go that great. He didn't cause problems but he refused to eat dinner. He was definitely upset with me for leaving him with someone here. He doesn't understand why. Oh well. I enjoyed the night although about 25 people showed up - twice the normal. Usually it last an hour but when I left at 7:30 (started 5:30) they were still going. I did get to share just before I left. I was the only one there whose loved one was not dead or placed.
Hi Charlotte, "He didn't cause problems" is great. It means you can do this again. A delayed meal? He will survive it. Upset at you? Well it is not the first time. Didn't understand? He does have dementia, it is to be expected, oh well. I am thrilled you get to go out. And every thing, in my mind at least, went just fine for you. Because you can do this again. Survival. (Did I ever tell the story that my mother, when she went to daycare, used to sit in the lobby with a sign that said, "I have a perfectly good home, I am being held here against my will."?)
Bhv, I am holding your jaunt today in my thoughts and prayers. Sometimes it takes repetition for our spouses to get the idea that daycare is now part of their lives. Sometimes it takes repetition to realize that their going to daycare will now be part of our lives too. Survival.
Charlotte, I could hardly wait to find out how things went. I am so glad you went out. Can't believe you are the only one with spouse not dead or placed. That's a serious bummer. But still.
It is sooo funny that he refused to eat. My hb does the same thing if I manage to not say something nice enough for his majesty's ego, he will go pout in the living room or back yard or go sit in his truck trying to start it with his wallet.... and refuse to eat. Like ... That will fix her for sure! Soooo funny.
How did the care giver react? Will she come again? You said it didn't go that great, but I am with Lindylou, it sounds like a rip roaring success to me. You enjoyed yourself!!! The care giver didn't call you in a panic!
Lindylou, I am so glad you are here. I woke up thinking of some times we went to the cottage on the lake and sat at the end of the dock dangling our feet in the water, you and me and Mim together like three girlfriends in that picture.
I remember that story about your Mom. Might have to make a sign like that for hb.
BTW my name is Bonnie. When I started here I just used my initials cause I wasn't sure I wanted anyone to know ME.
She said it was fine. she is use to dementia patients, so no surprise. the only thing he ate the rest of the evening was cookies and candy. Oh well - his loss!!
One woman there said she moderated the Thursday meeting and they only had two there. Might change to it. She placed her husband a week ago.
bhv, Hi Bonnie. Funny, I always "felt" or thought the b stood for Beverley - to me you were a Beverley. Strange how sometimes we get an impression in our minds...
Charlotte, glad to hear you're able to get some respite.