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    • CommentAuthorJan K
    • CommentTimeJan 13th 2018
     
    Several days ago a 74 year old caregiver was murdered just a few miles from where we live--in a small, "safe" town. The woman's cause of death was "multiple traumas that complicated her hypertensive cardiovascular disease". (It makes me sick to think what those carefully phrased words really mean.)

    Today they arrested two people for the murder. One of these was a home care aide who previously worked in this home to care for the woman's disabled husband. They believe that robbery was the motive for the murder.

    Although we have had some amazingly good caregivers, I have become increasingly paranoid about having a stranger in our home. At one time I had a caregiver that I realized actually frightened me. The problem is that you really know nothing about them, and they know where you live. But after this? Even more paranoid. I keep thinking, "there but for the grace of God go I".
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeJan 14th 2018
     
    Jan, I always found it difficult to have someone working in my house, even though I appreciated their help, so I know what you mean. Right now I'm on my own, and I like it. I'll have to get a cleaning in person in soon though — I can't keep up with it. How are you doing? It's been a long haul for you.
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    Remember to keep all valuables out of sight and preferably locked away. Don't give the impression that you are well-off in any way, although of course a big show of being "poor, poverty-stricken me" may not fool anybody either, and will just make you look silly. Unless it's true of course. You just want to portray yourself as a working person caught in the lower to middle-class squeeze like everybody else--which is a very common scenario and likely to be true anyway. Do not under any circumstances allow your aide any access whatsoever to your credit cards, your pin numbers for anything...if you have financial errands to be done, find some other way to get them done besides the aide doing them. Don't in any way give your aides the impression that you are worried about theft...that is just insulting...and in working with aides for over 20 years, I've had a grand total of one who actually went to jail for theft. I've had a grand total of zero who did any physical harm to a patient or who let their significant other do harm to a patient. Having said that, you should never allow your aide's friends or family into your home--this is a universal rule, and if you feel bad saying "no", call your home care agency and let them be the bad guys who say "no". Do not get involved with your aides or their families outside of their normal working hours--don't let their boyfriends shovel your drive on weekends or chop your firewood. And even if you have a gut feeling of not being comfortable with your aide--or God forbid if you are afraid of them for some reason--let your agency nurse know, and let her be the "bad guy" who changes the aide for some reason "that has nothing to do with you."
    • CommentAuthorNicky
    • CommentTimeJan 14th 2018
     
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    • CommentAuthorRodstar43*
    • CommentTimeJan 14th 2018
     
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