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    • CommentAuthorSaddness
    • CommentTimeSep 9th 2017
     
    It has been 1 month today that my Jim died. I thought I had gone through all the emotions with each stage of his illness. He was diagnosed in 2009. I did not know I could cry so hard and long just all of a sudden. The waves of emotions are painful. The things people say in an effort to comfort you seem so meaningless as they have not gone through the experience and assume that one must feel great relief, but that is not true for me. Relief yes, that Jim is not being tormented by AD but not by his death.
    • CommentAuthorFiona68
    • CommentTimeSep 9th 2017
     
    I am so very sorry for your loss. You are right. Most often, people do not know what to say to those of us who live with a loved one with Alzheimer's. I hope you gain some little comfort in knowing that people care for you and are trying to help you feel better - even if they miss the mark a bit.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeSep 9th 2017
     
    Sadness, I am so sorry about the death of your beloved husband. I know how you feel, for my husband died in March and I still mourn him. Try not to get dragged down by the clumsy comments of others. You have enough to heart break to deal with. Anyhow, not everyone knows what is appropriate to say but most mean well. I will be thinking of you. Please let us know how you are doing.
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    So sorry for your loss...and yes, you are right that people don't have a clue what to say...can't really fathom what you are going through. As others have said, they mean well. I've found bereavement to be a long row to hoe. There will be days when you are fine, and other days when you just fall apart...seemingly for no reason. It seems to come out of nowhere. But it's absolutely true that time...just the passage of time, and you yourself taking all the time you need to get through this...will help a lot. Don't try to evade the pain...just go with the flow...cry, scream, mope, vegetate, ventilate...and in time you will integrate the loss and, while we never "get over it"--we do find a new normal, and the peace and joy that is waiting for us out there.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeSep 10th 2017 edited
     
    Sincere condolences on your loss. I hope you will take some comfort in the knowledge that you made his life easier and happier. You walked with him, you took him for rides, you got him a kitten, all this on top of the day and night vigilance that Alzeheimer's requires. I hope you'll keep in touch.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeSep 10th 2017
     
    Sorry for you loss but happy he is free. Take all the time you need to recovery and grieve. You've had a month so have a some idea. I think from what others say - catching up on rest is #1.
    • CommentAuthorcassie*
    • CommentTimeSep 10th 2017
     
    I am sorry for the loss of your beloved husband, Saddness.
    There is nothing easy about losing the ones that we love.
    I wish you peace & strength as you face the difficult days ahead.
    • CommentAuthorRona
    • CommentTimeSep 12th 2017
     
    My condolences saddness. A very difficult time it has only been a month things will get better with time. Take heart in knowing you did everything you could for him and he is now at peace no longer tormented by this disease.
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    I am so sorry for your loss...there seems to be so many as of late...please be kind to yourself and rest easy knowing you did the best you could for him...