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    We had the farewell party for my DH and it was great! I couldn't stop thinking He is Free! Free of Alzheimer's . It's hard to remember him before the disease! I have shed not a tear ! I know I have shed enough over the years To make up for them! All of feel is Joy for him. And tiredness! I feel as though I could rest for a month!
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeSep 3rd 2017
     
    May you get some much needed rest now. I am glad the day went well. I understand not being able to remember what they were like before.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    I remember that feeing of total exhaustion. I remember sleeping 10-12 hours every night. Even awake, I moved in slow motion. You do need the rest, so take it where and when you can.
    • CommentAuthorbhv
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    Kycaregiver, I like the idea of a farewell party. I keep wanting to say congratulations, you are free, but.everyone's.relationship is different. They say I will feel.different when I get there, but I don't believe them. What I feel is Joy for you... and jealousy. Sleep well my dear. And don't feel guilty if you feel.a little joy for yourself.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    Ky caregiver, our reactions are similar. I had the exhaustion, too. But my primary feeling was the absence of stress. For months, I just felt the stress oozing out of me. Strangly, I didn't feel joy for him, just relief. At six months after his death, I am finally beginning to shed a tear, which was prompted by reading something about how much a bereaved person would give to have just a few minutes or hours with the deceased person. (It reminded me of the movie "Ghost," with Patrick Swayze, Demi Moore, and Whoopi Goldberg.) I, too, would give anything just to have him back for just a little while.
    • CommentAuthorRona
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    A farewell party great idea from your comments I know you are going to do well. Reminds me that I think I mentioned that earlier this year I losg a couple of good friends late 60's my age. For my friend lee who passed from cancer they billed it As an "after party". He planned if all picked the music the food everything it was a great event. It certainly sounds like your party had the same feel.
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    I do feel Joy for him! I was reluctant to put on here that he is a believer! And I am also and firmly believe he is kicking up hid heels with Jesus without Alzheimer's!! That man has suffered enough and me too! I will kiss him but just have too remember circumstances. The final song at his service as everyone filed out was Praise the Lord I'm Free!!
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    Ky caregiver, I am so glad you feel that joy and I hope he is feeling it too.
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      CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2017
     
    Great choice of song.