Kitty, when I said you didn't have nine lives, I only meant that you should get out of your marriage and enjoy the one you have! I did NOT mean that I thought you were in danger! I am SO SORRY that you and anyone else may have thought so. It was NOT my intention. I apologize for the misunderstanding.
No apology needed. It was Starling's comments that upset me, "you shouldn't even be looking for a job, before you know where you are going to live." Ever tried getting a place to live without a job? They verify employment, not to mention you have to have the income to pay for it. & her total misunderstanding of why I started the thread. I wasn't trying to avoid seeing an attorney, I was trying to determine if finding an attorney in a different state would speed up the process. And, if you must stand in judgement, refrain from commenting. Sunshyne also misunderstood my goal.
I am far from needing to go to a shelter. I am under no threat of physical violence, & where anyone got that idea is beyond me.
Mary, don't feel bad. All is o.k. Your comment didn't bother me.
I do understand why Jane has retreated. I felt attacked & misunderstood.
Kitty, don't retreat like Jane did. We want you here and I want Jane back. We need her! When someone disappears from here, there's no way to contact them so we can't let them know how much they're missed or can't help them if they need help. Love to all of you. We need each other.
Kitty=I'm not trying to be a Pollyanna and make everything perfict (wouldn't know how to anyway). Everyone on the site is stressed to the max or we wouldn't be here. Our nerves are frayed because we won't hear what we want to-no happy endings here. Misunderstandings happen. I believe we all bring information to each other. If advice is not taken perhaps we feel slighted. Maybe our advice is in question. Maybe our value is in question. Do we really matter to anyone. YES we do matter. YES we do care about you. Please don't leave us. Who else will laugh at my dumb cat jokes.