Hi my name is Cindy and I am here to find some support on how to help my husband whose Mother has advanced ALZ. We live across the country from them and she is being well cared for by our niece who is a nurse. My husband likes to call her even though she does not know who he is. When she sees him in person her face lights up like a bit of memory is still there. When he called her on Saturday she was not even speaking sentences, it was gibberish. My heart broke for him, I could see it in his eyes. Later he said "she is not getting better". I know she is not going to get better and so does he but I can't find the right comforting words. I can't say it will be alright, it's not. How can I help him?
All you can do is be there for your husband. This is a horrible disease. It will be alright in that you will make it through this. Does he have a family history such that he fears?
There are some excellent groups on Facebook you might want to check out since we are spouses who have spouses with AD or other dementias.
Facebook groups: Forget Me Not https://www.facebook.com/groups/780755315365229/ Us Against Alzheimers https://www.facebook.com/groups/usagainstalz/?fref=nf Dementia Aware https://www.facebook.com/groups/250325295027020/ Pathway to Knowledge https://www.facebook.com/groups/572307532828859/
The Alzheimer's Association also has good messages boards/forums.