I'm just so tired of complaining to the staff where my husband is! I just get one thing resolved and something else comes up. I have noticed they aren't cutting up my husbands meat, giving him a straw, little things I know, but it makes me very sad! I want to just bring him home but I know I can't handle him ! I can't be there for every meal! This is best nsg home in my town!
It is very sad. Would it help to talk to the person in charge of the meals, the dietician? It may be that these two concerns could be taken care of before the meal is served, that is that the meat be cut up by the cook or server, the liquid served in a "sippy" cup and drunk from the spout, thus doing away with the need for a straw. All dining rooms are run differently, and all staff are not equal. You may have to observe and be innovative on your own, unfortunately. You may be left with no option but to complain, right up to the top. It's a decision I never liked to make for fear they'd take it out on him, but sometimes I had to. But no, you can't be there every meal. I once hired an aide to come in and feed my husband lunch and then give him special skin care to prevent bed sores. My stepson came in, sent the aide away, saying,"I'll do it." But he didn't. When I spoke to the Filipino aide, she said, "In my country, if a male member of the family tells us to do something, we do it." I had to have my lawyer write the stepson a letter saying that he would lose visiting privileges if he continued to interfere.