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    • CommentAuthorAmber
    • CommentTimeNov 6th 2016
     
    Grief

    I had my own notion of grief
    I thought it was the sad time
    Following the death of someone you love
    And you had to push through it
    To get to the other side
    But I am learning there is no other side
    No pushing through it
    But rather
    There is absorption
    Adjustment
    Acceptance
    And grief is not something you complete
    But rather, you endure
    Grief is not a task to finish
    And move on
    But an element of yourself
    An alteration of your being
    A new way of seeing
    A new definition of self

    By Gwen Flowers
    • CommentAuthorJan K
    • CommentTimeNov 6th 2016
     
    Amber - Thank you for sharing this. It's so true.
    • CommentAuthorFiona68
    • CommentTimeNov 8th 2016
     
    Wow, Amber. That is beautiful. The words (grief is) "an element of yourself, an alteration of your being" really spoke to me. Any time I can find something that somehow clarifies what is going on in my head and heart, helps me persevere.

    Thank you.
    • CommentAuthorBev*
    • CommentTimeNov 12th 2016
     
    I copied that one. My mom and dad and my sister have been gone for several years now. In a space of such a short time I lost many members of my family. Every so often, I will feel an overwhelming grief at the losses . I remember so much of my early life now, the good parts, with my family members who are gone, and that is good, but with my husband going now too, the losses have mounted up and sometimes I feel very alone, even though I have wonderful children and their families, which I am so grateful for.
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    Amber, thanks so much for sharing that - I had also seen it on Facebook a couple of weeks ago and immediately copied it out.
    Here is another thought on grief from the writer Anne Lamott which was right on the money for me:

    "You will lose someone you can't live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely
    get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn't seal back up.
    And you come through. It's like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly - that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you
    learn to dance with the limp."
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    nbgirl

    Those are perfect words for me. I am going to copy them .