Under the most recent "clinical study" discussion topic, comments veered off topic to address issues related to my struggle with grief that has kept me away from the website and my writing. Let me assure everyone that no matter how I feel emotionally; no matter whether I am able to write or not; no matter where life takes me, these message boards WILL REMAIN OPEN FOR YOU AND OTHERS WHO COME AFTER YOU. I fully and completely understand the need for the emotional and informative support that these boards provide. As you have often told me, for many of you, this is the only support you have.
I continue to be astounded at how far and wide my little idea that came to me during one of my many sleepless nights has spread. I am amazed at the friendships formed and the lifeline this has become. I often come here myself for emotional support and understanding.
So once again, while I am figuring out how, what, and when to write, as well as how to proceed with the website so that it meets everyone's needs, the message boards will be here now, later, and as far into the future as I can see.
You can help by spreading the word, not only about the message boards, but about my blogs and all of the information offered by the full website on the left side of the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com
So many of the folks that were here when I first joined this group have now moved on and out of the dementia world. They left us so much information and love and I know that they must still take a peek every now and then. I seem to be moving away from support groups and needing to start a different life a little at a time. I still come here for help and to vent and it is so helpful. You have done so much for all of us and we really appreciate your caring site. You need to do what is best for you now. You have given so much to so many. I greave and cry every day for the life we had but it gone and he is still here but gone. We will all make it. Thanks so much Joan. Have a great Thanksgiving with your family.
Though it has been 6 years since my husband left this earthly world I still peek in once in a while. The scars will always be with me and I must stop picking at the scabs. This site was a lifesaver and I have made some life long friends. I can see things more clearly now as I no longer have to live on the head of a pin. No more terrible decisions to be made. Strangely dusting my house still hurts as each memento reminds me of places gone to-together. I have learned to not mourn what will not be. What is over is over and I must move on. I thank all who have been on my journey and helped me. Thanksgiving will soon be here and one of my daughters will carve the bird. The recipes will be the same and so will the good memories of what was. Bless you all.
Yes, bluedaze, a lovely post, indeed. "I have learned not to mourn what will not be." I learned that too, and think that it must be the key to not living in perpetual sorrow.
Likewise from me too, bluedaze. Thanksgiving sounds like such a good idea to me, don't know why we don't have it here. Nice to hear from you Marche, hope that life is treating you kindly
Appreciate your assurance, Joan, and your providing this place for us. Thank you Bludaze, learning "not to mourn what will not be" is a big one for me", and perhaps it can be learned while my SO is still in the world.
cassie, may I ask where you live, as you don't have Thanksgiving? I know Canada has a "Thanksgiving" (forgot what it's called! Sorry, Canadians), already passed for this year.