For weeks now I have been telling Doctors and nurses that DH is having dizzy spells and staggering. I don't think anyone heard me or they ignored me. Today he had a dizzy spell as he was getting off the bus and fell. I was not called. I was told he had a mild abrasion on his knee and hands. They didn't call me. I found out from him and now I am back in there tomorrow to make sure this problem will no longer be ignored. He hasn't showed any outward sign of physical problems up until now only verbal aggression, but I am really PO'ed that they ignored my warnings and he has fallen. What if he had broken a hip or hit his head? I'm tired and sick and just plain pi**ed *ff. What is the matter with these places? Do they think we are stupid or blind? Do they think we lie to them when a problem arises? Maybe they just want us to disappear. No going to happen. I was very fair and honest and was willing to listen to problems with my kids when things came up but I never allowed them to be harmed and it's not going to happen with him either.
They absolutely should have reported this incident to you. There is no excuse.In my state it is mandated. It is possible that his staggering has to do with progression of dementia; it is also possible there is a medical issue that needs to be addressed (UTI or something else). In any case you need to know. And they should rule out other causes, if that is your wish, at the time you notice medical issues..
One of the things you can do, when you notice a change, is check with the CNA's and see if they are noticing the change too. They are the first, sometimes, to notice these things. And it bolsters your case when something needs to be checked out.
I'm not making excuses, but because I worked in nursing homes (as an Activity Director) much of my working life, I have always been staggered at the amount of issues that nurses have to deal with in just the course of one day. I know for a fact they don't think you are blind or stupid. And they do care about your husband. Be gentle with them, but persistent. And thank them when they get it right. I know I am preaching to the choir. Best wishes with your meeting tomorrow.