I have spoken before about how sick I can get when a I get a simple, if any are, cold. I have asthma and most times end up on antibiotics and prednisone. Well last week on comes the cold, out comes the prescription for antibiotics and now the big boy, prednisone. I am really sick by Saturday. DH is worried and upset because he can't take care of me. He has a great week I am getting better and last night it went south. He called to say good night and informed me that he has seem an ad in the paper that a Casino near here, half hour drive, has a dinner, 5 to 7 p.m. For $9.95 for T-bone steak and lobster tails and " I want to go". As I said this is a half hour drive in the dark, a casino that is noisy and you have to line up, put your name on the list for dinner, then the wait is from one hour to one and a half hours. He has trouble with waiting in line at MacDonalds for coffee service and is now having trouble with the noisy time there as well. I was astounded then remembered that he has dementia. I tired to explain the location and wait times but no way, " want my steak and lobster dinner". Also now his appetite is dropping and he has trouble eating his diner. Half a plate is enough. I finally gave up trying to reason with him and just said" NO, I am not driving in the dark, or waiting all that time in a casino for my dinner, so NO we are not going. I will cook you a streak here at those one lunch day as soon as I am up to it.. Subject closed. When I spoke to my daughter and son about last nights conversation they agreed. No way. They are going to buy the food needed and take him to her house and grill the streak and lobster tails and a salad and desert. I am not going as she has cats and my asthma will just blow up again. I sure hope this will work. Our Grandaughter will be there and he spends all his time with her if she is at an activity so hopefully.
It's hard to say no to your partner of so many years. Sick or not it is hard. We have always done everything the other asked for. Never said no. It was a great adventure sometimes but not anymore. It's always something I have to decide what is best for him where he is now. Will it be to noisy? Will it be to long a wait for service? Will it be to long a drive? All these things have to be taken into consideration when I am taking him out as it may end up to be to upsetting for him then will become a problem for me. I am now just take him out to MacDonald's for coffee twice a week, and that seems to be working. Right now with me being sick he is getting upset because I can't take him. It's all about him. Poor me I can't go for coffee. He says he worries about me when I am sick but it is for me or because he can't go out for coffee?mi really don't know. It will be a few more days, maybe Tuesday before I can take him out. He is going out with the other resident to a lunch at a nice restaurant in a small town not far from here. They have gone there before so the place knows what to expect. I have his care conference that day so maybe Tuesday depending how I feel. Advancing is just little things. Nothing big yet.