Yesterday morning my big brother quietly went to sleep and left us. He turned ninety in late February. He was quite a bit older then me and was gone from our home when I was born. He had a great life and a great wife and really supportive kids. We talked just about every week as he live quite a distance from me. He was a real imp. You could just look at him and know to get ready as he was up to something. I was able to text his daughter while she was with him and tell him how much I loved him and thank him for being a great Brother. They said he had great big smiles when they gave him this info. I'm really going to miss him.
Next loss!
Kevan is withdrawing from so many things. Doesn't want to sing much anymore. Spending more time alone. Very frightened at times. Is only wanting to go to MacDonald's for coffee then back to his residence. Fearful of taxi's. Wants to come home less for visits.craving coffee and now sweets. Says now he is eighty he can eat what he wants, no worries. Walks all the time. His shoulders have become very painful, they are sending him for physio and have tries ultra sound but that just made it worse so now heat. That seems to help. Lots of losses.
What about me? I am doing much better but experiencing lots of losses right now.
Jazzy, your brother sounds like a great person--sorry to hear of his loss, although God bless him for making it to 90. And in terms of Kevan--we know the progression this disease takes, but that does not make the long, slow, downward spiral any easier to watch and try to cope with. Hugs. (((((( ))))))
Sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. It was so special that you had a good relationship despite the age difference. My mom had kids starting at 16 and the last one at 40, so we are spread out with big age differences but that never stopped us. As we all know age really never makes a big difference. I was so happy to read of the good life he had full of love and family. What a blessing to have the memories.
Sorry Kevan is still loosing ground. We all know it will happen but that doesn't make it any easier.
Jazzy, I'm so sorry about your brother. He sounds like a lovely person. I'm glad he got your final message. And although Kevan's decline is inevitable, that does not make it easier. He is lucky to have you by his side.
I'm sorry to hear about your brother. He sounds like a great person. And yes, it is so hard to watch our spouse go downhill with one loss after another.