I just finished reading Sheri's blog re: Bob and "Al" in it's entirety...when I got to the part called her epiphany where she realized that Bob needed someone to care for him but it didn't have to be Sheri it was like being smacked in the head...I thought about that all day and night as it had never really entered my thoughts before, maybe after hubby's little stint in the hospital and seeing how totally unstressed he was, maybe I should have realized that he too needs someone to care for him but he doesn't necessarily need me...that's heartbreaking...sigh