My mother 20 years ago, 2 years ago my brother, now my sister has been placed in a LTC today. She was the most bubbly happy sister. My best friend. Now she doesn't recognize any her family. She is aggressive and needs total care. This is the most sad Christmas for them. For all of us living this terrible disease.
Jazzy, I am very sorry to hear your sad news. I lost my sister Rita just before Rene, and she was, like your sister, a best friend. They cannot be replaced. God bless as you deal with all this sadness.
I am so sorry Jazzy. We just can't seem to get away from it. I now see it in my mom. And my DS thinks I am just making things up about our mom. So no help or support there. Yesterday my mom said she only had her little Christmas tree a year or two. I bought it for her almost 10 years ago.
So this is the fourth person in your family. Yes, It's almost too much to bear. I hope your sister has a spouse or children who can take care of her. I've only had two family members with this - my father and my husband - and I don't know how much more of myself I could or would give if another person close to me got dementia. Until you wrote this, it had not occurred to me that one of my sisters could get this, but of course, they could - why not? To tell you the truth, I've had it with the whole thing. The best I'll probably be able to do is to stick with my husband for the duration. I don't think I have what it takes to live in crazyland with one more person. As I wrote on the "Fear" thread, the worst thing about this disease for me is dealing with the absence of reason and reality that it entails.