My husband of 60 years died this morning. He had been very agitated for few days and we had suggested something wrong, perhaps a UTI but he didn't meet 3 of 5 criteria for getting tested for it so it wasn't done. Yesterday they finally got a urine sample but wouldn't go to lab until today. Yesterday afternoon after not eating lunch because he didn't seem to know to swallow the nurse gave him an ativan with a little applesauce and when that didn't settle him gave him a pain pill (norco) with a little chocolate pudding on the spoon. A bit later he threw that up and threw up a couple of times after that. He was breathing a little fast but seemed ok so I went home a little after 6 P.M. They called me at 12:15 to update me that he seemed ok. At 12.52 they called and were taking him next door to hospital. I got up and dressed and went there to find him struggling to breath and very pale and non responsive. They had xrayed him and he had aspiration pneumonia. I didn't think he would last until morning but put off calling my son and daughter he seemed to rally but died at about 9:20 A.M. They both arrived to be there when he passed away, very hard but a peaceful passing. Wonderful doctor and nurses cared for him and our pastor was with us when he died. Still in a daze about it. Dorie
Dorie, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you, your children, and the pastor were all able to be there. Try to get some rest now--it sounds like you didn't get any last night.
DorieMI, very sorry for the loss of your husband. Every time one of our spouses passes, the first thing in my mind is ... free at last ... no more suffering, no more confusion, no more pain. God bless as you face the next few months.
Dear Dorie, so very sorry to hear of your husbands' sudden death. May he now rest in peace. Keep your family close, to help you through the days ahead. cassie
Dorie, I am sorry for the unexpected loss of your husband. Thankfully you had the loving support of yor children and the pastor during such a sad time.
Dorie So sorry for your loss.. In hope offering you a tiny bit of peace of mind and a feeble attempt to ease your pain, The initial agitation sounds like what they medical community labels" Terminal Restlessness." This was the start of everything failing and nothing anyone could do would reverse the process.
There is nothing easy about this disease but I hope you can find comfort that he is no longer at it's mercy and some peace of mind in having done all you could for him along this journey...So sorry for your loss