there was a Bettyhere but her husband died in 2003. There is a bettyboop but has not been around since 2011. I remember Betty Kelley though and she is on Facebook. Don't remember her screen name here.
Betty, I'm very sorry for the loss of your Paul. Because I also truly believe they are free of the disease I don't regret her passing after ten years of battling together (read surviving). I know about lost and broken. Caregiving is abuse to every part of the human being or any being except perhaps the soul. In the grief ahead, it is possible to help ourselves a little by having some pity for the reality of the state we were pushed into when our spouse passed. It took some months for me to be able to begin to take enough pity on what I knew but could not feel - that I needed some care too now, and that it was me that had to try and find ways to begin to provide that as the months passed. My sincerest condolences and hearfelt wishes for you to find you are strong. Everyone who sees their mate through this is strong.