What next? Yesterday a call comes in from the Assistant Director of Care. My darling hubby has sent an inappropriate email to his Ward Nurse. So this morning I have to go to the residence get a copy of the email and then go and talk to DH. If he continues to do this I will have to remove his email from the building. This will devastate him. He loves his computer and I think this will cause a big upset for him. Problem #Two. I need the capacity letter in order to have the authority to remove his email. Where is it? I find that out tomorrow. Since he is still able to take work with math questions very well then it might be difficult to get the letter. Oh Yes. The inappropriate email consisted of, as they describe it, a picture of a craft group at a senior home where one of the ladies uses play dough to make a penis. He is becoming kind of sex interested for the first time in about 10 years. I figure that it's the fronto and I am just going to talk quietly and try to not get him in a rage. It was one of the staff that gave him all the email addresses for the staff when he first went there. I was upset about that at that time but it was to late to do anything about it.
So off I go to meet the dragon at 08:05. DH will be at breakfast so I can get in and then just wait in his room for him. Oh boy I am not looking forward to this!!!!!!!!
It is amazing to me, the problems that crop up that you have no idea were ever coming. Surely they will be understanding. I tell myself, at every event------this can't be the first time this has happened! Good luck.
Jazzy, It is definitely the fronto that is causing this. The frontal lobe is the area that controls inhibition and impulse control. Inhibition is what keeps people from engaging in inappropriate sexual behavior. In fact, for some people with FTD, inappropriate sexual behavior is one of the first symptoms of dementia.
This is a medical issue. It is pathetic that you would be summoned to the facility as though you were the parent of a naughty schoolchild. Doesn't the Asst. Director of Care have any education whatsoever in this area?
Jazzy, my husband has bvFTD and as myrtle says, inappropriate sexual behavior and obsession with sex & porn were the first signs of his FTD. That stage lasted at least 2-3 years! I'm sooooo glad that's far behind us now.
I agree with Myrtle & Elizabeth - they should be able to deal with this without engaging you!
I chose to handle this myself because I know what type of emails he sends and I'm glad I did. I took a picture of it and it was all I could do to keep from laughing. The picture had a story as to where and what it was about. They asked a number of dementia seniors to make a sculpture. They asked for his of them " To keep your mind working, try to create something from memory. " The picture shows a very elderly lady making a sculpture if a penis out of silly putty! It was by no means sexual. When we talked about it he said" I knew the minute I sent it that I shouldn't have, but it was so cute" I never thought they would make such a big deal out of it. He said " the only sexual thing I am interested in is you and me but that is not possible" I took him out for breakfast. When we got back he said he would email her an apology because if he tried to talk to her face to face he would burst out laughing. What do you do with someone like that who has dementia?
I have to laugh cause I have seen a lot worse things posted on Facebook.
ust look at how many kids are getting expelled from school for doing things less sexual. In fact today there was a story about an 8th grade girl getting detention for hugging a good friend at school. The friend happened to be a boy she has known for years. It was considered inappropriate touching. Our society has gone too far the other way now.
this is the caption: This photo was taken in a Senior Center in Plymouth, Michigan . The course was “How to Prevent Alzheimer’s.” The Project of the Day was, “To keep your mind working, try to create something from memory.
I think her memory is working very well. I just can't see what the fuss was all about. I chose to talk to him myself and I am happy I made that choice. It went well and with not major stress for him. He was in a happy place last evening.