DH moved to a new floor early in October. Reason? $549.71 less per month. This meant new residents to get to know, new staff to get to know and staff to get to know him. No name tags! Wear name tags ordered!! ! Staff not happy about that!! To bad!! He can't remember who you are!! Wear them or else!! Dinner one Friday evening. Short eight or nine butterscotch tarts. Residents upset. Oh boy. Found three more. Residents really ticked off. Next table to get one was DH's. PSW gives them to different table. DH has major explosion! PSW orders DH out of dining room! DH won't leave! RPN orders DH our of dinning room! He refuses to leave! Dinner over DH calls me! I go to residence. I get a different story all to get her then what DH gave me. I requested that he put incident in report book. Guess what? Not done. Director hits the roof. Staff goes on break next door to bell ringer but does not check on resident. Director really hits the roof now. I am now caregiver from hell on this floor. Do I care?? Not likely!
I don't think it's worth $549.71 wear and tear on you and your husband's nerves to stay on that floor. I'd move back pronto. You're getting what you paid for.
No, it's just adjustment time for DH and staff. The room is the same but the staff need to have an attitude adjustment. It was the same thing for the first few months on his last floor. The bv fronto's demand a different care plan then most so the staff have a difficult time adjusting. It will be fine by Christmas.
Jazzy, it never ceases to amaze me that we put our spouses in facilities so they can get 24 hour care by professionals yet somehow the staff never seems trained to handle the behavioral aspects. Hope Kevan and staff get settled in soon for your sake.
For some reason I am not stressed about this. I had to shake things up two years ago when he first went to live there. It is just having to educate the new staff on this new floor. Most are very good. Just a few who are rebels and don't think they need to follow care plans or company rules. It's just a job to them. I'm doing fine since my move. Much better atmosphere. Lots of people here who are dementia caregivers, but with partner at home. Everyone watches out for them. I'm finely feeling good about my life. Much tougher and this caregiver from hell is always watching.
I was watching, too, Jazzy, but you are not there 24 hours a day. Good that Kevan can speak, and you're there to advocate. Keep up the good work in protecting you husband. Thankfully most staff are good, but we always have to be viligant. Glad to hear that you are happy in your new place. Wishing you the best.
Did you see the following? http://globalnews.ca/video/2291775/3-workers-sentenced-for-abusing-man-in-nursing-home/?utm_source=Homegnca-toronto&utm_medium=MostPopularVideo&utm_campaign=2015
Incredible that people can be so cruel to vulnerable people. I think these 3 workers should have gotten more jail time, served all at once, and then if they are not citizens, be expelled right after their jail.
I'm sorry I posted this. It was meant only as a caution to caregivers. Now I'm afraid I've made you worry, we all have enough of that. Please let me know if it should be removed, or if it has helped to warn people.
Thanks for posting this, marg. Please don't remove its. It's helpful to know that this happened and how the man's sons were able to document it. It mystifies me why people would want to be so sadistic. Like you, I'm surprised at the light sentences these people received. I wonder if the prosecutors thought they would have a problem proving the case and therefore made a deal?
Hi Myrtle, I cannot understand what makes people be so cruel, either, especially when their victims are so helpless. I think it helps if people are aware that these things happen. Most are very angry about this, and the more publicity, the better it is, to open peoples' eyes that these things can happen. I'm still fighting my battle, but I don't think it was as bad as this. I told them I will persevere until I know exactly what happened. We have had to file Freedom of Information documents, and are trying to get the police report, both of which take a bit of time. As I said before, I know that he was overall treated with care and kindness, but it just takes one or two bad apples to ruin the reputation of others. Unions can be good, but they can also protect bad people, and keep names confidential. Can't say more than that now.
Don't take that post down. The public need to know how some sick PSW's and other staff can be really cruel. I will have no qualms of calling in the police to investigate if I find DH being mistreated. I have a path to the directors office and she is very good. I find that most healthcare facilities here don't have any one in charge on the floor. They are called teams and they say everyone is in charge. There is no one responsible. If everyone is in charge then no one is in charge. It used to be that the nurse was boss and directed all staff, but now not so. She is just a pill pusher with no authority. Terrible set up. I also find staff more interested in their break then caring for residents and this is not just in our LTC but I'm hearing that it's an overall problem it's not a vocation anymore but just a job. POA's and family need to be more vigilante. Drop in with no pattern. Ask questions! Don't be afraid to speak up if you don't like what you see and hear make some noise, demand answers. Be proactive! I never expected to have to be so aggressive with caring for him, but I am. Good advise from here early. Thanks
When DH was in rehab for 5 weeks I was known as the "difficult bitch wife" by caregivers and nurses but I didn't care. Someone has to watch out for the patient and in my experience it isn't the paid caregivers. Sorry to be so negative but ever experience in a facility has been a bad one for us mostly because the aides are not trained properly or don't care.
Glad that some of you feel it was the right thing to post … our loved ones SO need to have us watching over them, but still sometimes we can miss. I picked up my husband’s autopsy report this morning … have to ‘decipher’ it by studying via the internet. Looks like it was mostly Alzheimer’s, with lots of plaques and tangles throughout; some Lewy bodies, atherosclerosis with ‘old hemorrhagic infarct”. At this point, if I ever found out who victimized him …. my sweetheart …. my liebling … the best thing that happened in my life, I don’t know what I would do.…. Memories go back to the old days … he was such a good and gentle man, and I so respected and loved him. I can say (and believe I mean this) that I don’t want revenge, but I do want to make sure this person does not work again with vulnerable people. Although that part of our journey is over, I cannot yet grieve; I feel numb, and am just waiting to find out what happened to him. My heart truly hurts for those of you who are still struggling and trying to take care of their loved ones. We all have different problems and stresses, and I don't know if I could have survived what some of you have dealt with. It is such a hard, painful, stressful journey. Please know that you are all in my heart and prayers.