My birthday is July 4th and my oldest daughter's birthday is July 5th. I will always miss the large family parties when we could all celebrate together.
bluedaze, Happy Birthday wishes are being sent your way. I hope both you and your daughter will enjoy some fireworks of the joyous kind on your Special Day's.
I traveled to the nursing home today Woke up in a fairly good mood; as I am dressing Jax calls He is distressed, going to take a shower and not wanting to The mood vanishes, the dread begins. It is going to be one of those days. As I drive, I listen, think and pray. Will he even know me...on this my "special" day A day that we used to celebrate, a little gift or two And always a kiss and hug...and honey I love you None of that happened today, just a wild and agitated face, greets me when I come around the corner...his place
Today is my birthday, and happy I try to be The nurses are so good to him and also to me. As I leave with tears in my eyes, his head is on the pillow He doesn't even know that I am going and his world is closed inside His failing mind, But even so, we are heart connected and I know he would say if he could Happy birthday to you love and many more, of which you certainly should Be able to celebrate this sunny day, with a smile, a kiss, a caress Instead I drive back home alone...and wonder what is next.
Always know in your heart that he would if he could even when your heart breaks seeing he can't. My wife would always have cared about my birthday if only she could have.
Thank you all. The first birthday without him being at home has been rough, but I do know that like Wolf said, he would if he could. That does bring comfort in a small way. One other really nice thing that happened today, his nurses at the NH bought me a bouquet of flowers and said they were from Jax because they knew he would want to send me some flowers if he could. I thought that was extraordinary and touched my heart. There are kind and loving people in the world. Sometimes I am so full of grief that I can't see much light, but I know it is always there.
Me - Today, Sunday, July 26. And if you must know the truth, that would be 1948. I just returned from spending the weekend with very dear friends, who have been friends with Sid and me for 39 years. Even though I still don't have much of an appetite, I somehow managed to eat chocolate birthday cake with chocolate fudge frosting. And French vanilla ice cream. I count that as lunch and supper.
OK everyone, it's September now. Wahoo! My birthday will be September 27. I'm a Libra, and while I don't believe in astrology, I've always found it weird that I'm a very typical Libra. Just coincidence of course. You all who have read my anguished postings over the years won't believe this, but I really am a very balanced person. Yes, really. (Stop snickering, Wolf.)
Thanks AliM. And Happy Birthday right back at you. My sister is born on the 31st too. BTW - you don't get to call me a young man just because you're five minutes older.
Thanks, Wolf. Yes, had a piece of cake with the family, and then went to that dance that night--ended up with a guy I met at the dance taking me out to supper afterwards. So a nice day and a couple of new experiences. And now that I'm FRA (Full retirement age for purposes of American Social Security), I get my first widow's benefit check next month. So Wahoo, I guess.