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    My sweet husband passed tonight very peacefully. I can hardly believe it is over. It all happened so fast. He was moved from assisted living in mid February to LTC and then 5 weeks later to the hospice house for medication management and then to the hospital for 2 weeks for more medication management and then last Thursday started with a fever and lung suctioning and oxygen. He was discharged on Thursday to hospice care. He never really got out of bed after the discharge. They gave him hydrocodone every 2 hours and atropine for the secretions. I feel nothing but relief right now that his journey is over. There were many days that I wondered how much longer I could do this but I have wonderful family and this wonderful web site which has been a god send. He was diagnosed in 2008 and in August would have been 2 years since placement.
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    My sincere sympathy to you CO2. I am happy that his passing was peaceful. I can understand how you feel relief that he is at peace. You can rest well knowing you did everything in your power to take care of him.
    • CommentAuthorcassie*
    • CommentTimeMay 3rd 2015
     
    CO2,that was a peaceful ending of a vile disease (but not your husband, he will be with you forever.)
    Sending you sympathy and wishes for love and comfort to surround you in the days ahead. cassie*
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    CO2, I'm glad his passing was peaceful. I hope the next few days are not too painful -- I'm so sorry.
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    CO2, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you, him, and your family.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMay 3rd 2015
     
    Wow CO2, I'm sorry. Your timeline was similar to ours. It's a terrible thing we go through. I hope that you stay strong during this and in time find ways to have some life again. It's a shock when it's suddenly us. My sincere condolences on the passing of your sweet husband.
    • CommentAuthorAliM
    • CommentTimeMay 3rd 2015
     
    CO2, My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your husband. You did everything you could do to be a wonderful caregiver. It is good to hear that you are feeling relieved that his struggle is over.
    • CommentAuthormariposa
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    I am sorry for for your loss and wish peace and ease for you.
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    I am so sorry and I understand the relief you feel. Find your peace and strength for the days ahead.
    • CommentAuthorJazzy
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    So sorry for your loss. Be at peace.

    Jazzy
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    I am so sorry.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    CO2, I am so sorry for your loss but truly understand the relief that your caregiving and his suffering is finally over. My husband was also diagnosed in 2008.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    My husband was also diagnosed in 2008, and died the same way, on the same meds. God bless.
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    So sorry for your loss.
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    My sincere condolences CO2. Take good care of you.
    • CommentAuthorFiona68
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    CO2, I am so sorry for your loss. You worked so hard for so many years to give him the best possible quality of life. I am sure that he appreciated all you did for him. I pray that you have peace now. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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    I am so sorry for your loss
    • CommentAuthorElaine K
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    I am so sorry for your loss, but glad to hear your husband's passing was peaceful. I know you did your absolute best in being his caregiver and advocate. Peace and comfort for the days ahead.
    • CommentAuthordellmc53
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    I am so sorry to hear of your husbands passing. I pray that you will find peace and solace knowing that you were there for him until the end.
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    Please know that my thoughts are with you, so sorry for your loss. Betty
    • CommentAuthorMim
    • CommentTimeMay 4th 2015
     
    My sympathy....may you find comfort & peace in the days ahead.
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    CO2
    My sincerest sympathy to you on your loss. It is a hard hard road and when they are gone we do feel relief that the suffering for them is done.
    You have a lot on your plate in these next months so please take care of yourself.
    Based on my experience, and what I wish I had done, take some time and find a good massage therapist to help you relax now and get some much needed rest.
    Blessings
    • CommentAuthorbqd*
    • CommentTimeMay 5th 2015
     
    Thinking of you, CO2
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeMay 5th 2015
     
    CO2,

    Our husbands were placed at the same time, so I was quite shocked when I read this. My deepest sympathy to you.

    joang
    • CommentAuthorMoon*
    • CommentTimeMay 5th 2015
     
    CO2,

    I am sending my sincere sympathy to you on the loss of your husband. I hope you will find peace
    in the days ahead.
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    I am so sorry. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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    CO2 My sincere sympathy on the passing of your husband.
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    CO2, I have struggled with internet issues for the past week. I just wanted to add my condolences on the passing of your husband!
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    The funeral was Friday and today is Sunday. I still have a lot of stuff to do but I was happy to get through Friday. I found a couple good books by Doug Manning that i think will help. A couple things I notice is it is harder to concentrate and I am more forgetful than normal. I do believe I have already cried buckets of tears during all the moves over that last 3 months. All that was excruciatingly difficult for both of us and I am sure hastened the end. The doctor in the geriatric psych dept told me he wanted to keep him to "make him more comfortable" but as I reflect I really think he "knew" the end was near and kept him until he started running a fever and they had to suction his lungs. Only then did he discharge him. There is definitely a void since there is no more caregiving but I do think a good bit of my grieving has been accomplished with his placement 18 months ago. There were so many days that I wondered if it would ever end but it did. I am still amazed at actually how fast he did go. My neighbor has a DH in his 90s who has vascular dementia and is on hospice. He is declining very slowly and barely qualified for hospice again. She has hired a caregiver and it is costing her $4,000 a month to keep,him home. He, however, is not exhibiting the behaviors my husband had. Big difference. And also she can afford it, which I could not. It seems like with anything else, money talks. I had very few options open to me with Medicaid. If one is self pay, the world opens up as far as options go. My task now is to figure out who I am because I am not the same person I was. That I know for sure. Thanks to all for your kind words and support.
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    I too am so sorry for your loss. You have been such a trooper in this long journey. Please I think the forgetfulness is just part of all the stress, I had that for months and it seems to be letting up now. And I believe, though you are the same person, you will likely become an even better one feeling good about yourself for all your giving. Aloha and please take care, and know you are not alone.
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    Thank you Coco, You have been an inspiration to me. Today was a very difficult day--could not seem to accomplish anything except cry and nap. Hospice is coming Friday to talk. God bless.