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    • CommentAuthorjennyf
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    My husband, who was still walking with assistance last week, and communicative, though demented, is dying. He fell four times this week, had a UTI which was treated with Cipro and passed a kidney stone along with a large quantity of blood. He can no longer eat and can barely swallow, he opens his eyes but cannot focus, he cannot speak, he cannot move himself in bed and he hasn't voided for over 24 hours, although he was incontinent of a slurry of rust colored stool twice. I spent all day holding his hand and talking to him. I like to think he can hear me and tell him I love him, how wonderful he is, how I will miss him but be OK, and how he can let go.
    I just can't stop crying. I feel so helpless and so bereft. Hospice is coming tomorrow. Please pray that he goes quickly and easily.I don't think he is having any pain or discomfort. But I just don't know what to do.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    My heart goes out to you both Jenny. You're not alone.
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    You are doing everything you can do. You are there...you are loving him through this...you are holding his hand...you are talking to him...you are giving him permission to go. I will pray for you both. A peaceful passing for him and strength for you. I pray that you will feel God's presence and peace surrounding you both.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    I add my prayers for peace and strength as you help your husband though this last part of the journey. Try to pace yourself so that you don't become exhausted.
    • CommentAuthordellmc53
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    I too will pray for peace and strength for you.
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    Jenny - He CAN hear you, he knows your love. Let that blessing be his peace and yours. Betty
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    I second everything the others said. You are doing exactly what you should be doing - being a strong and comforting presence for him. We are all thinking of you.
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    Yes, Jenny, you are doing everything you can do for him and everything you should do for him. Just stay close. Love and prayers to you both for peace and comfort during this hard time.
    • CommentAuthorMoon*
    • CommentTimeFeb 28th 2015
     
    Jenny,

    I am so sorry for your pain. You are there comforting him, and at this point that is all you can do.
    Keep telling him you love him - I really do believe he can hear you. Somehow you will find the necessary
    strength to get through this dreadful stage. I will keep you both in my prayers.
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    Jennyf
    I too am praying for you. I believe he can hear you and he knows you love him. Hugs
    • CommentAuthoryhouniey
    • CommentTimeMar 1st 2015
     
    Praying for you and your husband,all you can do is to keep comforting him,I know he can hear you.We all dread when it comes to this time.Faith will get us thru.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeMar 1st 2015
     
    Jenny, I'll add my prayers to all the others. I too believe he can hear you and knows how much you love him.
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    Please know that you are giving your dear husband the best. Being there, holding him and talking to him. Sending (((hugs)))
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    Sending positive and peaceful thoughts to you both - and ((((HUGS)))) to you.
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeMar 1st 2015
     
    Jenny you are doing all you can for now. I firmly believe he can hear you so keep talking to him and holding his hands. I did the same with my DH beloved and I know for a fact he heard me as I told him its ok now to go. he clung on days til he was sure I was ready. hospice will ensure his comfort and ease on passing. I am so very grateful for all they did for us too. try to find some peace knowing the disease will soon release him.
    hugs, divvi
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    Jenny,
    You are doing the right thing ... you are there and he isn't alone, especially now. Wishing you the strength to see it through.
    • CommentAuthorMim
    • CommentTimeMar 2nd 2015
     
    Jenny, praying for a peaceful passing & for peace & comfort for you....
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    I just saw this and hope you are holding up okay. Hold his hand, wash his face, play some favorite music for him, let the tears roll down your face. Be strong, you can do it for him and for you.
    • CommentAuthorInJail
    • CommentTimeMar 4th 2015
     
    I'm a long way away from this with Mr. Hostile, but I can share my experience with my Mom and the Dementia Demons. She had been put on Hospice because she could no longer swallow. She was on week two of no food or water and basically in a comatose state. I took a crack of dawn flight to her NH and had four hours with her before I had to fly back to do night chores. When I walked in her room and she heard my voice, she opened her eyes and held my hands so tightly that it hurt. I couldn't believe she had that much strength. My siblings freaked out because she had been non responsive for weeks. They said ten minutes after I left her eyes closed and she never regained consciousness again and died four days later. I wish I could have understood what she was trying to say to me. I was doing the face stroking they do with AD patients and she seemed to find comfort in that. Even in the last days they must know that someone they love is trying to comfort them.

    Prayers for both of you, Jenny
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    Jenny,

    I know what you are going through. My husband passed on Valentine's Day after a few days of not eating, drinking and just sleeping. It is very difficult. Please take comfort in what you are doing. We brought Pat home on hospice on Friday the 13th and he passed the next evening. This past week and the weeks ahead was and will be more difficult. Especially for my 11 and 12 year olds. It is a cruel disease. I am praying for you both. xo
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    so very sorry Jenny hang on hang on tight.
    When my darling was dying, I spoke to him for that whole day, and I knew he heard me.
    • CommentAuthorjennyf
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    Thank you all for your love, kindness and understanding. My husband, Norman, died yesterday, very peacefully and very quickly after being on the hospice service for less than a week. They are fantastic. Half of my heart is shattered but the other half is so grateful he is released from this burden and is free. I wish you all love. Jenny
    • CommentAuthorBama*2/12
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    I am so sorry Jenny. It was a blessing that he died peacefully. Praying for strength and peace for you and your family.
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    Sorry for you Jenny for you loss but glad he is released. Peace and comfort for the days and weeks to come.
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    so sorry for your loss jenny. its bitter sweet, losing them to find peace for both.
    • CommentAuthormyrtle*
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    I am so sorry.
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    So sorry for your loss, Jenny. The love you had for each other will help you get through this.
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    I am so sorry, Jenny. May you find peace now that he has found his.
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    Jenny, Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. (((Hugs)))
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015
     
    I'm sorry for the loss of your husband Jenny but I also understand what you mean that he is released from further suffering this disease. As I hope you will also be in time.
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    Sincere condolences, Jenny. He's free now. Wishing you the best as you deal with this.
    • CommentAuthorMoon*
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015 edited
     
    Jenny,

    I am very sorry for your great loss. I know it is with mixed emotions we face the end of the difficult
    journey we traveled with our loved ones. I wish you peace in the coming days.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeMar 7th 2015 edited
     
    So sorry for your loss, but thankful that the trial is over.
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    So sorry for your loss.
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    Sending my sympathy and wishing you peace now too.
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    So sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace as he is now at peace.
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    So sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.
    • CommentAuthoryhouniey
    • CommentTimeMar 8th 2015
     
    So sorry for your loss,may you find peace as he has.
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    So sorry for the loss of your husband! I understand what you mean about him now being free from the torment of the disease. Take some time to take some good care of YOU now!
    • CommentAuthorAliM
    • CommentTimeMar 8th 2015
     
    jennyf, My sincere condolences to you on the loss of Norman. I do hope the shattered half of your heart will soon mend.
    • CommentAuthorcassie*
    • CommentTimeMar 8th 2015
     
    Sincere sympathy to you jenny on this final loss.
    May the days ahead be kind to you. casse*
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeMar 9th 2015
     
    jenny, so sorry for the loss of your Norman; maybe you both be at peace.
    • CommentAuthorBev*
    • CommentTimeMar 9th 2015
     
    I am so very sorry, Jenny.
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeMar 9th 2015
     
    Jenny,

    So very sorry for your loss. I hope you do find some solace in that he is no longer in the grip of Alzheimer's Disease.

    joang
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    So sorry Jenny. I hope you can find comfort that he is no longer suffering.
    • CommentAuthormariposa
    • CommentTimeMar 9th 2015
     
    I am so sorry for your loss and wishing you peace and ease.
    • CommentAuthorMim
    • CommentTimeMar 11th 2015
     
    Jenny, my heartfelt condolences to you. I think it must be bittersweet - your painful loss, but his freedom from disease.