Paj posted this in the Caregiver in Residence thread. I have copied and pasted your condolences in this new thread. Please post all messages to Paj here. I did this to make sure everyone will see it.
joang
paj 2 hours ago edit delete Bill, my husband, passed away this past Saturday.
The staff prepared him for bed at 8:17 p.m. He appeared fine. When they checked again around 9:00, they found he'd died in his sleep. The last week or so, I had the funniest feeling when I was with him. It was as though he'd given up and didn't want to "fight" anymore.
Shocked and heartbroken but if there can be any blessings, he died before he reached the final stages of Alzheimer's.
He was in NH seven months.
I write to tell this news but, also, to say to everyone that you will continue to be in my thoughts and say thank you for all the feedback that helped me through this difficult time.
These are the condolence messages that I took from the "Caregiver in Residence" thread and pasted here. joang
redbud73086*02/26/09 2 hours ago edit delete Patsy, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Moon* 2 hours ago edit delete Patsy,
I am so sorry for your loss, but I agree that is was a blessing for Bill to go so peacefully. I hope you can finally get some rest and peace yourself. I will keep you both in my prayers.
myrtle 2 hours ago edit delete Dear Patsy, I am so sorry about your husband. You must be in shock. You will be in my thoughts. myrtle
bluedaze*5-5-10 1 hour ago edit delete Patsy-I am so sorry.
Jazzy 1 hour ago edit delete Patsy, so sorry for your loss.
Hugs
Jazzy
paj 1 hour ago edit delete Thank you all so much.
Your kindness and support have overwhelmed me with thankfulness for a site such as this.
Please take care of yourselves too. I've read the difficulties and challenges each of you face and admire your strengths and courage. I was physically and mentally exhausted after only seven months.
I intend to check back often to see how everyone is doing.
God bless each and every one.
Patsy
marg78 57 minutes ago edit delete Patsy, I would like to add my condolences. My first thoughts are always ... no more pain, no more confusion ... he's whole again, and at peace. Kindest best wishes.
And I would also like to add my message of sympathy, Patsy. We all know how bereft you must feel at such a sudden loss but it was such a dignified and peaceful passing for your beloved DH. And you both deserved that blessing. cassie*
Patsy, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I understand when you say blessed he didn't reach final stages...I feel the same way. Take good care of you now!