bluedaze, thanks for the reminder. Happy Thanksgiving to all Canucks (unless that is a derogatory name). If so, please understand that no offense was meant.
Happy Thanksgiving to all Canadians! Feel a connection as I was in Newfoundland this summer . My grandparents' came to New York from NL. Beautiful and friendly people! Love visiting there!
My grandson's wife is from near Toronto. She has been here in the south for some years now and I think getting used to "us". So happy Thanksgiving to all Canadians wherever you may be.
My DH and I "celebrated" Thanksgiving today by ourselves. The kids had their own plans so did not join us, although we will see them in a couple of weeks time. I did the traditional turkey dinner anyway. It will give us lots of left overs so I don't have to think about what to cook for dinner - I'll just package the turkey in meal size portions and freeze it, so we aren't eating turkey for the next two weeks. We did manage to get out for a bit of a walk - something that we haven't done for awhile. Although DH said he was nervous, as he had fallen out of bed during his afternoon nap, and continues to have issues with his footing when walking. It was just such a beautiful fall day. It felt good to be outside and not doing chores! And we shared some laughs today.
I am thankful that my DH still has his sense of humor.
I used to explain to my co workers in the US that Canadian Thanksgiving happened in October because if we waited until the end of November, all of the pumpkins would be frozen and we wouldn't be able to have fresh pumpkin pie for our Thanksgiving dessert. :-)
Happy Columbus Day to those who celebrate it tomorrow.
Yes Thanksgiving, in BC Canada and I am trying to be thankful. Mostly, this year I am not in the thankful mood with my DH still in the psych ward, still kicking over chairs although being drugged. I feel devastated every time I see him. I am thankful for my own health which is the most precious thing in the world. I would trade it in a flash to have my husband back.
Just got back home from a thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings. My friend who lost her husband last year invited me. This is one of the doors I opened and I remember the diaper changing of both the kids the youngest of which is 27 now. It was a great time and I told stories such as the time their five foot tall mother had one of the basketball players on his knees. He was a feeler and she kneed him in the groin so hard he took some time to get up. She clinked her wine glass at me because she had forgotten that.
This is the woman who stormed out of our house yelling she didn't want to hear about Alzheimers. She just came to wish her friend a happy birthday. To which my wife replied she thought it was in the cupboard in the kitchen to the husband who I could see suddenly understood how things actually were by his pasty white and quite stunned face. Unfortunately he lost a year long battle with cancer which showed up five months after I put my wife in the NH.
It's all quite strange how life moves around. In the end I deem that the truth lay on both sides. My needs were outside the rhealm of what friends can provide and yet many turned so easily into their own protection. I was guilty of it too when my close friend had serious mental issues and we pretended otherwise. It doesn't matter much anymore. What matters is that I got healthy enough not to see myself as defined by my disappointments with others. It's going to be the same for my wife's stupid family who are what they are where I'm willing to say they're doing their best; but, it will never be about any of them. It's my life for the taking and to come to there from where I was is sufficient reason to give thanks which I do.
Lovely to read comments on this Thanksgiving weekend. Such lovely splendor of color on the west coast of British Columbia. One of my favorite sites is fields full of pumpkins. I went to neighbours last evening and was amongst 17 other people most of whom I know, and had a delicious dinner. I still struggle with walking into gatherings alone, however, I did it. A huge part of me simply wants to stay home with invitations and snuggle up with my cats, and at the same time, I am aware of the importance of social contact for our health. Wishing us all some peace, acceptance, and compassion today.
Thank you! Kevan and I spent many American Thanksgiving and Chritmas times in the south and loved it.
Kevan and I spent the day alone. He asked not to gave turkey as he has it every Sunday at LTC. He wanted to have spaghetti with meat sauce. I guess they don't have meat in the sauce there. I made his pasta with meat sauce and pumpkin pie and he was happy. He has spent the last two week ends with me and has worked so grad to make our new home comfortable for me. I just have pictures to hang and sort and he has some repairs he wants to do. He now tells me if he can't do something and says to get someone in to do it. He gets so tired but he wants to try. He is doing well so why not. I'm really tired after he goes home to the LTC but he is not aggressive anymore so it works. The Ativan really has made a difference.