Elizabeth much love and sympathy coming your way. You have been so brave and true. It helps me in my journey. Thank you so much for sharing your moments with us. ((((())))))
Thank you for telling us about your husband's final hours. It is good to know that he went peacefully. My prayers are with you. Hope you can get some rest over the next days and weeks.
Elizabeth, Sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved husband. You were blessed with a very special love, and that is something to be very thankful for. Not everyone is so fortunate. Wishing you peace in your heart.
Elizabeth, I had tears in my eyes reading your so beautifully written account of your last minutes together on this earth. Bless your heart & my deepest condolences......
Thank you all--you are helping me get through this--you have no idea how much it helps. Larry's obit is in three newspapers this morning, but I think the easiest to key into online is to go on the funeral home's website. His name is Lawrence J. Palladino. www.beckerobits.com
elizabeth, Thank you for posting that. What an interesting life your husband must have had. I can only imagine the things he must have experienced in 27 years on the NYC police force.
Dear Elizabeth, what a beautiful tribute to your husband. What a loving wife and caregiver you were. I am so glad he had a peaceful end and I do believe he is at peace now. Take care of yourself now and my sincere condolences.
Thank you all very much. I could not be making it through this without the support of this group--your presence, your prayers, your good advice, your kindness. Final arrangements are in place, and now I must gear up for seeing him one final time in his casket, privately, at 11 am tomorrow. It is a strange time… a feeling of numbness, of being in limbo--with flashes of extreme pain, loneliness, loss. It was "You and me, babe." for so long…and now it is just me. I keep forgetting that he is not here, and I'll get up to go check on him, or remember that I need to give him his meds…yeah, right. Then I remember, and there is such a sense of…a vacuum. Like he's left an empty space, and life has not yet filled it up. I'm not crying much, but little things set me off….I'm crying easily. For instance, in using up food that was really bought because it was something he liked, I will just well up with tears. This morning it was when I opened the can of mandarin oranges. "Waaaaaaah--these were for DH!" Or the applesauce that I gave him crushed meds in. "Waah--this was DH's applesauce!" The bedroom is so out of balance with the big bed pushed over to the side, and a big open space where the hospital bed was placed. I will be glad when s-i-l comes over on Saturday to help move the big bed back to the middle of the room.
An aggravating thing related to the online obit. The funeral home seems to be soliciting donations for an online "memorial website." (I started a separate thread about this.) Please, please do not think that tasteless attempt at money-grabbing came from our family--it is some funeral home nonsense. Please ignore it and just read the obit. if you would like.
Elizabeth, I read the obit for your DH and he was a lovely man, quite dignified and good looking too. Don't worry about the funeral home soliciting funds, all other online obit notices that I've seen do the same thing. None of us think it's you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope the good memories come back soon to comfort you and give you peace. All the best.
Elizabeth, My DH passed away in July and his final days were similar to your account of your husbands passing. My DH went one week without food and water. He did not seem to be in any pain and faded away peacefully.