Has anyone had to deal with perception difficulties? My DH tells me all kinds of bad things that are happening to him that are not happening or are not nearly as bad as he saw. Saturday he told me that another resident spilled hot tea on him and the staff didn't check him for burns. I asked for this to be investigated and it turns out it was milk. The director called me today and they are concerned that I think they are not taking care of him. I told them that I have no idea how to handle the perception thing as DH was always very honest and up front and never exaggerated. Now I have trouble believing that he is misleading me or making things up. I need to learn how to filter out the reality from the non reality. Anyone ever have to deal with this? I'm the one that needs to learn thus new problem I have. They are very good at this residence and I told them that isn't the problem , I am ?
Jazzy, I had this problem with my husband, and I found it worsened for a year or so, then went away. The thing you have going for you is that it soon becomes apparent to others that his perception that is faulty. As long as you don't run with the ball and let it sort itself out (but remain observant), it will run its course.
Yep happening here too. I just consider the source and let it be. I do my own kind of checking up on what is going on there and so far so good. Plus a couple of the staff and some of the volunteers that work there, also work where I work so I have the inside scope.
This can go both ways.....I took hubby out for lunch and when we got back the nurse asked him where he went and what he did....well the story he came up with including how I didn't feed him or get him any treats, mean while he's holding a shopping bag full of goodies. We just nodded our heads, knowing what is really going on.