My husband passed peacefully this morning. Thankfully I never had to make the tough decision about stopping hydration & nourishment due to his swallowing difficulties.
Our empty house is now full of our children & spouses who will be staying with me this week. Even though I've been dealing with the decline for years I'm in shock & feeling numb.
Dear Trish, you've been a care giver for a long time, and you will feel in shock and numb now that he he is gone. I think it's nature's way of helping you to cope. I'm glad your family are with you. It is such a comfort. You are all in my prayers. Hugs.
So many of us have lost our dear ones so recently. I know that numb feeling, Trish. My thoughts are with you and our family during this difficult time.
Dear Trish, I am so very sorry you've lost you husband. Yes you've been on this journey a long time, but we're really never prepared, are we? I wish you strength and peace and of course I give you and your family my condolences and deepest sympathy. ps I think I will be catatonic, nut just numb. Blessings to all.
I echo the sincere condolescences of all the others. I am so glad that your family is there with you; at this time please allow them to take care of you - that's why they are there. I'm sure that beneath the numbness you feel relief for your husband that his suffering has ended. May God grant you peace in your time of sorrow.
May God grant you peace and comfort. Enjoy the family while they are there. I am so releaved for your husband. He fought a good fight and you were right there with him.
Haven't been on here for a while but feel so totally alone ... people wish they could help but they really can't ... I'm finding that it's a road that you have to go down by yourself.....I am afraid of what this next year holds for my DH ... he has regressed so much this past year especially physically but is still functioning so that I can work my 3 days .. don't know how much longer that will last though. Curious to see how many people will admit that they wish sometimes that their loved one would just pass away before things get really bad. I feel bad for him ... he can't drive ... his speech is horrible to the point where I can't understand most of what he says. I feel sorry and sad & guilty all rolled into one. I feel like my siblings lives are going on and they are enjoying their "senior" years together but I'm at a stand still. I don't want to feel this way ... I love my DH ... we've been together 44 years but I'm tired all the time ... frustrated and scared all rolled into one. I just keep telling myself that he can't help what's going on ... he didn't do anything to bring it on himself. To be honest with you ... I don't think counseling with other caregivers would help me a bit ... I don't want to hear what could happen or what did happen....I have to live in the "present' not the future. Don't mean to vent but I feel like screaming most of the time.... it is affecting my health and I have my own health issues also. I don't want to fail my DH ... I want to be able to say when it's all said & done that I did my best to help him have a good life. Life just gets hard sometimes !!