My DH passed in his sleep this morning, I was by his side. Had both DDs with me today. I will write more later. No sleep last night and have to make several more phone calls still.
(((Hugs))) to my friends here, who have helped me so much.
Oh blue, my heart aches for you. But it was as peaceful passing and I'm glad for that. Now, you get some rest, and take care of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. HUGS to you, my friend.
I am so, so sorry. You have been a wonderful, supportive and dedicated caregiver. You've been the same kind of friend here. Thankfully it happened in his sleep and he passed peacefully to a place free of pain and the devastation of dementia. Sending prayers, sympathy and wishes for strength to you and your daughters- as well as many blessings.
Dear Blue, I hold you in thought and prayer at this most difficult time. There really are no words right now...try to get some rest, you have a long road yet ahead. Blessings and Peace to you and all your family.
So sorry. I think all of us here pray for a peaceful passing from this dreadful disease. So glad he got that. Take care of you now. You deserve some good rest and some TLC!
Blue...I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You were always such a great help to me in the last months of my DH's final days. Bless you and your family during this difficult time.
Blue, I am so sorry for your loss. You have been a courageous and loving caregiver and advocate for your husband. I hope you find peace in the knowledge that you gave everything you had to ensure that he had the best care possible - and in his own home! You fought the valiant fight and now you can rest. God bless you and your family.
blue, I too, am sorry for the loss of your DH. I pray that good memories and tranquility will soon return to your life. You did a wonderful job as your DH's caregiver.
Blue, what a blessing to have a peaceful end to all he has been through. May God grant you peace and strength. your daughter's must be very proud of the way you cared for their father. Peace to you and your family.
Thank you for the kind words. I have to start by saying through this journey I have been very blessed. I found the wisdom, courage and strength to make it to the end. I was at DH side as he passed and now am surrounded by such love and comfort as I take the next steps in my journey.
I was blessed to be able to pass from anger and bitterness at the start to being at peace with where I am and what has happened to also being at peace with those who I was not happy with. I can only control myself and how I act. That was a tuff one to get hold of. I have learned to be flexible and patient. Something I was unable to do before. And found that I had an inner strength I never knew was there. (This is something I think we all find in ourselves).
DH declined so fast. Feb 2010 was the dx. Before the dx he was an angry, mean man. Not the man I loved and married so many years before. And after the dx and retirement he calmed down and relaxed and became more like his old self. I was very lucky about that, I know. He was an easy keeper as I called him. Early on he lost who the family was. I was the nice lady who took care of him. And that was ok. He lost who the children were. Funny, our new son in law who joined the family two years ago he could remember. They played the guitar together a few times and that just stayed with him to almost the end.
The days after Thanksgiving are a blur. The falls happened more ofter, three accidents trying to go to the bathroom. He never did become incontient. And at the end I only had five days of diapers to deal with. And he was unresponsive four of those days. The end came so fast and took me by surprise. It is strange how we can be so prepared and so taken off guard at the same time. The last few days were hard for me and DDs. I had prayed that we would not have to endure an end like we did. But we did it, and I feel like we did it well. I did everything I could to help him. And in the meantime found out a lot about myself. I did have my soul mate, the one and only and was truly devoted to him. Funny how often, what we want is right in front of us, I am blessed to have loved and been loved by and awesome man. And what better way for DH to celebrate Christmas, than to be in Heaven.
Please accept my sympathy for your loss Blue. You and your dear husband endured this battle together...it is indeed a difficult one. May your love and memories sustain you and your family. Love, Kathy
So sorry for your loss. Grief is hard no getting around that. You will make it just as you have this terrible time when you lost the man you knew and took care of the man he became. Keep coming because love is found here like nowhere else (I've ever been).
blue, my heart goes ot to you & your DD's. What a beautifl thought " And what better way for DH to celebrate Christmas, than to be in Heaven." My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
I cannot express how much I admire your positive attitude. You have been a wonderful wife, caregiver, and inspiration to all of us. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.