I was at a site where they had the stages of Alzheimers listed but in addition to the stages they also had substages listed. Example Stage 6 b. Can anyone tell me where it is. I have a doctor's appointment for my husband and want to talk in depth with his doctor. Sally
Wait until you hear my story. My daughter Tina set this up for me, so it's under her name, but I am on the site and I'm York. So I type under her login but it's me not her.
sally, go to the account at top of page and then to your left personal info??? check to see your 'SALLY" name is registered. wierd! it looks ok now on the last post you did??? super wierd...
We don't know what is going on. It's not me it's my friend Sally. Think the problem is now fixed, but it is still strange. There are always "the others" who sent me nasty e-mails.
I just got through the entire thread of Stopping Meds, found at that Jane & Starling had a big disagreement, which I missed because I want to DRUG my husband. Then I came here.
Kitty, I looked also at Sally. I have been here since the latter part of April. Some one is playing tricks and I don't appreciate it one little bit. Sally
I swear, when I read Mary's comment, Sally, do you know any good jokes?, I laughed until I cried. Mary, did you mean that to be funny, or were you just asking?
Sally, you will just have to get into the sandbox with Jane & Starling. (p.s. hope Jane continues. I wondered myself where Starling's comment came from, no offense Starling, but I really didn't follow your comment in the context of the thread.)
bluedaze, I had noticed that there were a few recent posts from you that appeared to be signed "sally". I thought that was really strange, since you'd said you're touchy about revealing your identity -- why would you start signing your 'real' name ... ?
So, so sorry Sally. I didn't see the difference in the spelling. We have a bluedaze we are used to, and they are so similar. Maybe you might want to change your sign in name so we don't get the 2 of you confused in the future.
Kitty, she HAD Sally as her sign-in name. She and bluedaze are long-time friends and joined this site together. She doesn't know how her sign-in name got changed to bludaze, or how it just got changed back again.
Mawzy, Sally (new here) initially wanted the 7 stages of AZ site....however, due to names being mixed up, and everyone trying to help, it turned into our smile for the day...she DID get the website, by the way! So now we're just having fun. Again. We get so little pleasure other than Joan's place! <grin>
Kitty, the reason you didn't understand the exchange between Jane and me is that I wasn't responding to her specifically. Or actually at all. I was responding to the idea that we are supposed to put our lives at risk and/or do things we are not physically capable of doing, to keep our LOs from doing something that someone out there might think was dangerous.
Let's get something clear. I'm not going to let him kill me. I've decided to survive this whole caregiving thing. It is very much part of the whole idea mentioned by someone else in a different thread that she had to acknowledge that the marriage bond had been broken in order to arrange for good medical care for her husband. When he tried to kill me something snapped.
And I'm not physically able to stop him from doing anything he wants to do at this point in the game. I can try, but I'm mostly not capable of physically stopping him. He is stronger than I am, and he is not physically partially disabled. I am.
Jane objected to my saying my piece. I don't understand why. Frankly it had everything to do with me and nothing to do with her.
She had previously objected to my pointing out that she disagreed with me about using Advantage plans. I've got a lot of respect for her opinion so I pointed out that our resident expert in financial matters doesn't agree with me. I thought I was being respectful, but I guess not since she took exception to it.
And if he does expire from a heart attack and/or stroke during one of his walks, and they put me in jail for it, I'll get a good lawyer. Because truly, exactly how was I supposed to stop him?
Oh Starling, I remember when my husband was driving me nuts and I didn't know which one of us was going to survive. I kept thinking someone was going to report us to the authorities...this crazy woman was talking to her husband like a child....she only uses one word commands....she refuses to let him drive....she lets him wear the same dirty clothes because she doesn't want to upset him....well, I used to say that I hope someone comes and arrests me. Put me in jail, please. I remember thinking that jail would have been like a vacation...I wouldn't have to cook, clean, watch him like a hawk, beg and plead for him to take his meds, take a shower, change his clothes....ahh...those were NOT the good ol' days.....
There was only one violent incident, but violence has always been a deal breaker for me. If he wasn't sick I'd have been out of there permanently like a shot. And both the kind policeman and the Assistant District Attorney were on my side and understood.
Most of the time he is gentle and kind. Ocasionally I get some grumpyness, but there is no screaming or yelling. Somehow I think he got the fact that if he lost it, I'd call the police again. It is stuck in his brain and it makes things a lot easier.
But I WILL NOT FORGET that I was at risk. He wants to go out there and kill himself, well as long as he doesn't take someone else with him by driving, that is what it is. And the truth is that he comes back several times a week from 2 to 3 hour walks. On what basis do I stop him? His cardiologist thinks it is a good thing that he is exercising.
I did take the car keys away from him this week. He wanted to drive because I'm sick with a bad cold and I couldn't. But I started crying and he let me have them. I've hidden them in a place he is unlikely to look. I wasn't going to let him put anyone else at risk by driving. And that is the difference.
Could we please re-name this thread, total confusion & miscommunication? What a hoot, no offense Sally, but I really thought bluedaze was up to some of her humorous tricks. I had no idea what was going on.