marty 1 hour ago edit delete Sue Passed at 5:30 pm. Holding my hand, I only let go when it turned cold. A very lucky man am I, 53 years of marriage to the love of life. No bucket list, no regrets no woulda coulda shoulda's. May she enjoy enteral peace she earned after this prolonged battle with Alzheimer's and Cancer Mr, right now I cannot conceive of life without her.
Vickie 1 hour ago edit delete Marty, you were her anchor, you were the love of her life. May you now find your own peace as she has found hers. My heart breaks for you and I send lots of hugs to you.
mary75* 55 minutes ago edit delete Sincere condolences on your loss. May you have peace knowing that you did everything humanly possible for her. May she rest in peace, and I wish that for all those who have been on the same journey.
Sandi* 3-16-08 27 minutes ago edit delete So sorry, Marty....you did well, my friend. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family....
ring 15 minutes ago edit delete Oh Marty, I am so sorry. Praying for strength for you and your family in the days ahead.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Her pain and suffering is over, it's time for you to get some rest. A beautiful love you can cherish in your heart forever.
Thanks to all for the support, guidance and invaluable advice over the past years. Your Thoughts, prayers and condolences are much appreciated!
Between the tears last night all I could think of is: MY life has always been " Marty & Sue " since the day we met when we were 14 &16 at a synagogue youth group dance. it was love at first sight. Our history was so extensive, we were both bar/bat mitzvahed by the same Rabbi and Cantor. our parents were friends etc. Our daughter looking over my should just now reading what I was typing said: "you had a storybook marriage. The two of you were always lovers and had a love affair to be envied!, even after Mom's final moments your holding her hand refusing to let her go says it all" These are the most difficult hours
Marty, your eternal love will prevail, and now you must turn your focus on healing and taking time to reflect on all the good you had with your dear wife. may you find peace and comfort now in the times ahead. . divvi
Marty, you and Sue are so blessed to have such a deep, enduring love for so many years. Your daughter is right...it is a marriage to be envied! May you find some peace and comfort in the days ahead as you begin this new chapter of your life. You were a wonderful husband and caregiver!
Marty, I am sorry for your loss. Your dedicated caretaking is to be praised. May you find peace and comfort knowing that Sue is now pain free and at peace. Blessing to you and your family.
Marty, May God grant you peace and rest. You still have the story book marriage. What a legacy for your children, to have parents who love each other for ever. These are the hardest times and the darkest moments are still to come. Hold strong to God's Love for the two of you. Sue is very a blessed woman to have been loved and cared for by you. Now rest.
I send you my deepest sympathy at the loss of your wife. You struck a note with me too, holding her hand until it was cold...I did the same thing...held my husband's hand and could not let go... Yes they are free of the horrible diseases from which they suffered. Still, it is so hard to lose them though we, deep in our hearts, don't wish them back with these difficult illnesses. Bless you and try to get some rest now. Arms around...You have earned your star with grace and honor.
marty, my heart is sad for you. You were a kind & compassionate husband & caregiver. Now she is at peace. My God give you comfort & peace as you mourn her loss.
Marty: So sorry to hear of the passing of your wife. May your memories of a wonderful life with the love of you life help ease the burden you now have to bear. God bless you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Marty. How blessed you both were to have shared your lives and your love for all those years. 14 & 16 years old – that’s amazing! And so sweet. I’m praying God will comfort you and your family and give you strength in the days ahead.
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu
Marty, Sue's love for you gave you the strength to see her through. Your love for her built the courage to do that and further to continue. She will always be in your heart and in the faces of your family. Peace be with you.
I just came back up to my apartment after a memorial service for Sue held in the building by my neighbors. I immediately went to the computer thinking I was going to send Sue an Email to let her know all of the wonderful things every had to say about her.. and then I realized with tears streaming down my cheeks what fools we are at times like this.
I was actually trying to think of her new Email address!!!!!!!!
With 7 years foreknowledge of AD and 3 years advanced warning of Cancer we delude ourselves into thinking we are totally prepared to deal with and cope with the loss of our loved one... The is no preparation for the reality of the loss
marty the days ahead will be very hard and you may find yourself doing these things over and over. I am sure others who are before us have had the same experience as you are feeling. take care of marty now and take time to reflect. grief is quite a process and has its own agenda. divvi
marty* so sorry once again for your pain. And this is something that I know, how you said, there is no preparing ourselves, it is going to hurt like hell. I have had to stop thinking about it.
Marty, I am very sorry for your loss of your beloved Sue. I hope the wonderful memories you have of her will sustain you through this extremely difficult time.
What an amazing life the two of you had together. You know, at your young ages, the odds were stacked against you, but your love triumphed over all of it. You both were lucky to have had each other for so many wonderful years. I hope all of those good memories carry you through this difficult time. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Joan, just returned from sitting with family in NY. A proud moment,delivered by our younger daughter (mother of a 2girls 15 & 12) as the Rabbi asked for memories. " When I was in 3rd grade I struggling over addition or subtraction or whatever schoolwork and my Mom who was determined to get either her BA or MBA, I don't recall which, would be helping me with my homework while she was struggling thru her own tortures in a finite math course she was taking. In 3rd grade she'd be teaching me her schoolwork! It took me many years to really comprend what a super person she was. Having my sister when she was only 17, she needed no lessons in parenting skills, taking college classes while we were in nursery school and kindergarten, never missing a school event, She was supermom, even when working for IBM she never missed a track meet or field hockey games hen I was in high school . It was only when I was older did I appreciate the teasing I got was jealousy; "your parents are always so lovey dovy" was the ultimate compliment. My older sister and I we're blessed by our parents. We were a happy family ! tand my sister and I strive today toraise our children in the same loving, caring, mentoring, values that were instilled in us by my moment dade ( she's succeeding (our) whoops no more our, no Sue, MY youngest granddaughter brought home a report card while I was visiting. her lowest grade a 97%. She rate in the top 2% in NYS wide testing in both math and English!!'