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    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013 edited
     
    Marty posted under another thread. I am copying his post and the messages written on it to this thread. Please post condolences under this thread.

    Thank you.

    joang
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    marty
    1 hour ago
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    Sue Passed at 5:30 pm. Holding my hand, I only let go when it turned cold. A very lucky man am I, 53 years of marriage to the love of life. No bucket list, no regrets no woulda coulda shoulda's. May she enjoy enteral peace she earned after this prolonged battle with Alzheimer's and Cancer Mr, right now I cannot conceive of life without her.




    Vickie
    1 hour ago
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    Marty, you were her anchor, you were the love of her life. May you now find your own peace as she has found hers. My heart breaks for you and I send lots of hugs to you.




    mary75*
    55 minutes ago
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    Sincere condolences on your loss. May you have peace knowing that you did everything humanly possible for her. May she rest in peace, and I wish that for all those who have been on the same journey.


    Sandi* 3-16-08
    27 minutes ago
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    So sorry, Marty....you did well, my friend. My sincerest sympathy to you and your family....


    ring
    15 minutes ago
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    Oh Marty, I am so sorry. Praying for strength for you and your family in the days ahead.
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    Marty-I am so sorry for all you have both been through.
    • CommentAuthorAmber
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    Marty - My deepest condolences....she is at peace now and hopefully you too will find peace.
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    Marty

    My deepest sympathy to you. Yes, how blessed to live a life with so much love for each other . Truly, "till death do you part". Peace to you.
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    Holding her hand until it got cold - Oh Marty, it's so hard to let go, isn't it? I'm so sorry.
    • CommentAuthorWolf
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    I'm so sorry Marty.
    • CommentAuthorbqd*
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    Marty, I am so sorry for your great loss. May you and your family find some peace.
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    So sorry Marty. May you find peace now knowing she is at peace. You were a faithful husband and caregiver to her.
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    Marty:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know you will miss her greatly. Your battle is over.
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      CommentAuthordeb112958
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    I'm so sorry for your great loss.
    • CommentAuthorBama*2/12
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    I am so sorry Marty.
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    I am so sorry, I have been thinking of you and praying for you and your family. May you find peace in your heart.
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    So sorry to hear of your loss. Her pain and suffering is over, it's time for you to get some rest. A beautiful love you can cherish in your heart forever.
    • CommentAuthorabby* 6/12
    • CommentTimeNov 17th 2013
     
    You fought so hard for her dignity. Wishing both of you peace and rest.
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing both of you peace and rest.
    • CommentAuthorxox
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    My condolences for your loss. We are never prepared for the final loss.
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    Thanks to all for the support, guidance and invaluable advice over the past years.
    Your Thoughts, prayers and condolences are much appreciated!

    Between the tears last night all I could think of is: MY life has always been " Marty & Sue " since the day we met when we were 14 &16 at a synagogue youth group dance. it was love at first sight. Our history was so extensive, we were both bar/bat mitzvahed by the same Rabbi and Cantor. our parents were friends etc. Our daughter looking over my should just now reading what I was typing said: "you had a storybook marriage. The two of you were always lovers and had a love affair to be envied!, even after Mom's final moments your holding her hand refusing to let her go says it all"
    These are the most difficult hours
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    Marty, your eternal love will prevail, and now you must turn your focus on healing and taking time to reflect on all the good you had with your dear wife.
    may you find peace and comfort now in the times ahead.
    .
    divvi
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    I am sorry for your loss, and that all our stories have to end this way. Wishing you peace going forward.
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    So sorry, Marty.
    • CommentAuthorLFL
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    Marty, you and Sue are so blessed to have such a deep, enduring love for so many years. Your daughter is right...it is a marriage to be envied! May you find some peace and comfort in the days ahead as you begin this new chapter of your life. You were a wonderful husband and caregiver!
    • CommentAuthorlulliebird
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    Marty,
    I am sorry for your loss. Your dedicated caretaking is to be praised. May you find peace and comfort knowing that Sue is now pain free and at peace. Blessing to you and your family.
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    Marty, May God grant you peace and rest. You still have the story book marriage. What a legacy for your children, to have parents who love each other for ever. These are the hardest times and the darkest moments are still to come. Hold strong to God's Love for the two of you. Sue is very a blessed woman to have been loved and cared for by you. Now rest.
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    Marty, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    Marty I am heartbroken to hear of your loss, please take care of yourselves. Just at a loss at words for your sorrow.
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    Marty, I can feel some of your loss - my wife and I started dating when we were 14 and 15. Try to remember the good things before AD took over.
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    I send you my deepest sympathy at the loss of your wife. You struck a note with me too, holding her hand until it was cold...I did the same thing...held my husband's hand and could not let go...
    Yes they are free of the horrible diseases from which they suffered. Still, it is so hard to lose them though we, deep in our hearts, don't wish them back with these difficult illnesses.
    Bless you and try to get some rest now. Arms around...You have earned your star with grace and honor.
    • CommentAuthoryhouniey
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    marty, so sorry for your loss,glad you have all those wonderfulmemories,hold on to them.
    • CommentAuthorElaineH
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    marty, my heart is sad for you. You were a kind & compassionate husband & caregiver. Now she is at peace. My God give you comfort & peace as you mourn her loss.
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    Marty, so sorry for your loss. She was one blessed woman, having you. I pray you can find peace and comfort knowing that.
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    Marty
    I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.
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      CommentAuthorJudithKB*
    • CommentTimeNov 18th 2013
     
    Marty: So sorry to hear of the passing of your wife. May your memories of a wonderful life with the love of you life help
    ease the burden you now have to bear. God bless you and your family.
    • CommentAuthorFiona68
    • CommentTimeNov 19th 2013
     
    Marty, my sincere condolences on the passing of your dear wife.
    • CommentAuthorJazzy
    • CommentTimeNov 19th 2013
     
    Marty
    Please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of your other half. Your love story is so beautiful.
    Thanks for sharing it with us.

    God Bless

    Jazzy
    • CommentAuthormary22033
    • CommentTimeNov 19th 2013
     
    I’m so sorry for your loss, Marty. How blessed you both were to have shared your lives and your love for all those years. 14 & 16 years old – that’s amazing! And so sweet. I’m praying God will comfort you and your family and give you strength in the days ahead.
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    "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu

    Marty, Sue's love for you gave you the strength to see her through. Your love for her built the courage to do that and further to continue. She will always be in your heart and in the faces of your family. Peace be with you.
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    Marty-as time passes I hope you will be able to think back to the best times of your lives. I am so sorry you lost your dear Sue.
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    I just came back up to my apartment after a memorial service for Sue held in the building by my neighbors. I immediately went to the computer thinking I was going to send Sue an Email to let her know all of the wonderful things every had to say about her.. and then I realized with tears streaming down my cheeks what fools we are at times like this.

    I was actually trying to think of her new Email address!!!!!!!!

    With 7 years foreknowledge of AD and 3 years advanced warning of Cancer we delude ourselves into thinking we are totally prepared to deal with and cope with the loss of our loved one... The is no preparation for the reality of the loss
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    Arms are around you tight, Marty.
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeNov 19th 2013
     
    marty the days ahead will be very hard and you may find yourself doing these things over and over. I am sure others who are before us have had the same experience as you are feeling. take care of marty now and take time to reflect. grief is quite a process and has its own agenda.
    divvi
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    Ahh, Marty, I am so very sorry. Take care of yourself now.

    Jan
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    marty* so sorry once again for your pain. And this is something that I know, how you said, there is no preparing ourselves, it is going to hurt like hell. I have had to stop thinking about it.

    Aloha and lots of hugs to you dear marty*.
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    marty, so very sorry for your loss.
    • CommentAuthorAliM
    • CommentTimeNov 20th 2013
     
    Marty, I am very sorry for your loss of your beloved Sue. I hope the wonderful memories you have of her will sustain you through this extremely difficult time.
    • CommentAuthorAdmin
    • CommentTimeNov 21st 2013
     
    Marty,

    What an amazing life the two of you had together. You know, at your young ages, the odds were stacked against you, but your love triumphed over all of it. You both were lucky to have had each other for so many wonderful years. I hope all of those good memories carry you through this difficult time. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

    joang
    • CommentAuthorMim
    • CommentTimeNov 21st 2013
     
    My sincerest sympathy to you, Marty.
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    Joan, just returned from sitting with family in NY.
    A proud moment,delivered by our younger daughter (mother of a 2girls 15 & 12) as the Rabbi asked for memories. " When I was in 3rd grade I struggling over addition or subtraction or whatever schoolwork and my Mom who was determined to get either her BA or MBA, I don't recall which, would be helping me with my homework while she was struggling thru her own tortures in a finite math course she was taking. In 3rd grade she'd be teaching me her schoolwork!
    It took me many years to really comprend what a super person she was. Having my sister when she was only 17, she needed no lessons in parenting skills, taking college classes while we were in nursery school and kindergarten, never missing a school event, She was supermom, even when working for IBM she never missed a track meet or field hockey games hen I was in high school . It was only when I was older did I appreciate the teasing I got was jealousy; "your parents are always so lovey dovy" was the ultimate compliment. My older sister and I we're blessed by our parents. We were a happy family !
    tand my sister and I strive today toraise our children in the same loving, caring, mentoring, values that were instilled in us by my moment dade
    ( she's succeeding (our) whoops no more our, no Sue,
    MY youngest granddaughter brought home a report card while I was visiting. her lowest grade a 97%. She rate in the top 2% in NYS wide testing in both math and English!!'
    • CommentAuthorCharlotte
    • CommentTimeNov 22nd 2013
     
    Wow, what a testimony to her mom and your wife. You truly are blessed in more ways than one.
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      CommentAuthormary75*
    • CommentTimeNov 22nd 2013
     
    Good genes, there. You must be proud, deservedly.