Self pity party going in in WV today Nothings new -Paul is no worse- I just seem to be a basket case today!!!! He seems to be having more unirary accidents lately-but no UTI.When I ask him why he wet his pants he just say"I don't know when I did that" he goes to the bathroom all the time so I don't know what is going on with this.Today he said it was because of the depends!!! He has worn them for three years so I don't know where that came from. Why do the little things just drive me crazy? Why can I not just be happy that he is no worse??? The TV is his best friend but I would like to throw it out---somedays when I hear all the gunfights on the westerns that he watch ALL the time-I just want one to HIT the TV!!!!! Today when he was watching Gunsmoke and 'Miss Kitty" was crying -I just sat down and cried with her!!!!!! Sorry for the rant but HAD to YELL and could not do it to Paul since he was doing nothing WRONG on purpose. Thanks for listening
bak, i have had the same kind of days. my hb in adult foster care now but remember putting in ear plugs so tv wasn't so loud. same thing with the wet depends, i think perhaps they don't always feel the sensation of having to go. Hang in there.
its ok to vent and rant. it does help. as far as the depends we have said it here often there seems to be a disconnect between bladder and brain signals. broken switch so they cant tell when they need to go anymore and it happens without control. I think we can all agree a wet depend wouldn't make us happy either. but most of us don't change them as soon as they go as we have to know they went. the dribbling is also a problem many men have with prostate issues. bak sounds like you need to try to get out for a break if you can. and soon. hugs divvi
Bak Somedays I feel the daily stress and sadness just builds to a point where it has to vent. Then I just feel I can't do anything but sit in the corner of my couch alone. I can join your pity party somedays.
But, it does pass. Usually, after a day like that, I recharge for a while. This life is so full of ups and downs. I understand . Hope tomorrow is better. What do you do for yourself?
LORRIE Come on over to my party--actually thought of the song "It's MY Party and I'll Cry if I Want to" may have been toooooo long ago for some of you!! I know tomorrow will be better but somedays---------------------- I do go to Alz.meetings once a month which are great. And this week I have a lunch date with two GREAT friends. I am so excited like a little kid going to the toy store!
Can I join your pity party? Today that was what I did all day was feel sorry for myself. I have to take over all the jobs he once did as well as my own. The kids don't call, I so much to learn and do and I was so lonesome. At least when he was here there were sounds in the house other then mine. A different TV or just some days when he was nice and we could talk about he past. That is all gone and so I had a pity party right here and I just don't care who knows. Just because I am Mom doesn't mean that I can handle everything that is thrown at me in one shot. I am tired from caring for him, being yelled at and treated like crap and I just want someone to know how bad it feels to be tossed aside like this. In other words I am not just hurt and sad but really pi**ed off!! He can't help the way he is but the rest of them can! I am now not sure I care if they ever call or come around. They didn't help much when he was home and I needed respite, I had to pay for that so why would I expect it to be any different now. Maybe I should just take off and spend the winter in the south. I wish I could but money is not that good right now so I will stay here and freeze my butt. Christmas is lovely with all that white stuff!! LOL!!
bak, I had a pity party for myself last week. I get really down & sometimes it's difficult trying to climb back up that rope! But somehow we find the energy to get back & do what we have to do. It's so nice that you are going to lunch with your friends. I'm sure you'll have a GREAT time.........oh wait........I'm one of the friend's you're going to lunch with! Yayyyyy1 I'm excited too! See you on Friday!
Bak I remember It's my party and I'll cry if I want to, ......you would cry too if it happened to you!I
Glad you are doing some fun things too. I have great friends but I would love to be able to meet some of you for lunch. I 'm in Staten Island, New York. Too far to go.
Good for ya'll, rant and rave, get it out so that you can move on. Then make it Happy time. My heart goes out to you, such love and caring you have given your lo's. it's time now for the Sun to shine on your life. Bonnie
About the only good thing about being a part of this "party" are you wonderful ladies. Your supportive responses to something I posted a few weeks ago we're really helpful. I'm not sure how other husbands are handling an affected spouse, but only a few of us seem to comment. Another plus is that we remember Miss Kitty and Leslie Gore ("it's my party"), from nearby Teaneck NJ. Jazzy's comment above hit me because I'm fortunate in that our kids, relatives and friends have been totally supportive. Having "companions" for my wife for a few hours 5-6 days/ week has also helped a lot. For those hours, I can be "me" for a while. I bet none of us realized what "for better or worse, in sickness an health" meant when we recited those vows. We sure know now.
I just got back from my trip, and see my lovely friend bak is crying with Miss Kitty. That is really a sign you are down! Crying right with you Betty, sending out all the loving energy your way that I am capable of.