I've been doing a lot of reading on the threads, and I was wondering, since I suspect dh of having FTD, if any of the other members on this site with FTD spouses, found that if you withdraw from intimacy with them, do they become mean, nasty and more difficult than usual because of that??? Which is what has happened to me. And if so, how do you continue to live under the same roof? Since he refuses to go for a dx, I am researching actual behavior from FTD spouses with this specific situation and any suggestions on how to co-exist.........other than the obvious. And the obvious solution is unacceptable to me because I suspect infidelity with his addiction to porn, interactive sex sites, and who knows what else when he is not with me. It does seem to be that the obvious solution is the only solution, which I will not do......but just checking with others if I am missing something. I appreciate any feedback on this subject.
My DH does not have FTD but was mean, nasty and difficult for me, for years before his dx. No infidelity that I ever knew of. Just hated me. Was nice to everyone else :( He is sweet and kind to me now.