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    Memorial (or Decoration) day was always important when I was growing up and my parents used to always take us to the cemetery. But, this is my first one as a widower. They tell me that 'firsts' are difficult. I think they are right.

    We struggled, but survived Mothers Day, and spent a lot of our time at the gravesite today for Memorial day. Lots of flowers, memories, and some tears. But, all of that was important and I feel a sense of relief. I think reality is sitting in.
    • CommentAuthorlulliebird
    • CommentTimeMay 26th 2013
     
    Dean,
    So sorry for your loss on your wife. I do hope that your Memorial Day weekend is a safe one. Take care
    • CommentAuthorbqd*
    • CommentTimeMay 26th 2013
     
    Dean, I am glad to hear that you were able to get through your gravesite visit today and come away with a sense of relief. I pray that you will soon find some peace and be left with just the happy memories of you wife.
    • CommentAuthordog
    • CommentTimeMay 26th 2013
     
    Dean-

    As difficult of a day as it was, I am glad you felt a sense of relief. Take care.
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      CommentAuthorNikki
    • CommentTimeMay 26th 2013
     
    Dean I am sorry today was so difficult for you. I too am glad to hear you found some relief with the grief. ((hugs))
    • CommentAuthordivvi*
    • CommentTimeMay 27th 2013
     
    many times grief comes with a process to work thru, its going to take some time dean. take care.
    divvi
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    After I posted this info, I came to my home and had a sense of calm and relief that I had not had since my DW died in March. I realized that I had done all I could for her and that I had gone with her as far as I could in this life and because of that, it was time to say goodbye.

    I thought about it most of the afternoon, and decided that I would go back to the cemetery at sunset and tell her what I was thinking and how I felt. I did that, but, it was a lot more difficult than I thought it would be. I was just by myself and talking, out loud, to my newly departed wife, in this large cemetery at suns I did not know this was going to happen when the day began, but, I am glad that it did. I am slow, but, I finally understood that my life with her is over and three's nothing I can do about it. I will go to the cemetery occasionally, when I feel like it, but otherwise I will search for the future.

    That doesn't mean that I will forget her or that I will not continue to love her, but, just in a different way.

    Thanks for listening.
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    Thinking of you, Dean. Love your last sentence.
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    (Dean) I am glad you are so open to healing.