Well my son spoke to D.H's phycologist today and the news is not good. He is further into the dementia then we thought and he is not to have any changes in the care program we now have in place. We had thought that he could go and stay with his son's for a day or two but that is not going to happen. It is to stressful and to take him out of his comfort zone and that is not good for him. We will be sending him for respite in June but he says he is fine with that as they know how to take care of him. His son's have no clue how to talk to him or care for him in general. He is telling me things that are happening at daycare but they are not happening. I have trouble knowing what is truth and what is his imagination. I just want to scream and kick something and it has a big "D" as the first letter in it's ugly name. He asked me today what would happen if he likes it at respite and wants to go back and live there. I told him that whatever is good for him is what we will do. My heart is just breaking. I wish someone could just come and put their arms around me like he used to and tell me this isn't happening., but that is not going to happen and I will have to learn how to deal with this as best I can. I know: I didn't cause it I can't fix it I'm doing the best I can.
I'm so glad I found this site. Thanks Joan and all of you!!
Jazzy, So sorry that you are here with the rest of us in the middle of this terrible storm. On the positive side...I am glad that inspite of your husband's dx you are here sharing with us. ((hugs))