It sounds like a few of us have tried to write thru the pain, and some have been doing so with blogs. I have now joined the ranks. Most of my posts have been memories of other family members who have since passed away from Alzheimer's and other dementias. I am working up to writing more about DH. That's the most painful for me, as it is for most of us. The main benefit of blogging so far is that I'm sleeping better!
If anyone is interested in taking a look, the address is www.quiltofmissingmemories.wordpress.com or you can just Google ...Quilt of Missing Memories. I am still working on updating my tech skills as its been a busy few years with all the caregiving, otherwise I'd attach a link!
Nothing like writing to work through the pain. It was the writing I did in the middle of the night, because I was too distraught to sleep that led to me developing this website.
Imhor and Lulliebird-I appreciate your kind words and support!
Joan-A couple years into all this I would have thought I would have worked through everything. Maybe this will do it. Thanks for inspiring us all in so many ways!
Unfortunately, with AD, just when you've worked through one thing, something else comes along to throw you. As AD spouses, we are constantly being given new emotional challenges. But the writing does help.
Dog- Congats! I hope your blog will be a great sources of comfort and release for you as mine is to me! Is it ok if I put a link to your on mine? The cross exposure is always good. If you re not familiar with mine , feel free to take a look. www.sherizeee.blogspot.com. Better know as "Living in the Shadow of Alzheimer's". Let me know if you are ok with me putting a link to it, ok? Best wishes to you!
I'm not into writing a blog but I am putting my memories in the computer and thinking I'll just put a copy in with the Trust for my children. This has helped some since dh death in October. I read Sherizee's blog and will the others now I know how to find them. Thanks for posting this.
My small blog is nothing like Joan's, and the contributions she is making. But I am enjoying writing it and it continues to help me sleep!
I continue working on figuring out the tech aspects. My daughter tried to help me one one day and somehow her Facebook ended up on my iPad. Hopefully I will figure out technology someday!
In terms of the name of the blog, it came to me as I was packing up the clothing from my Mom, Dad and my husband to send to the wonderful woman making the quilt for me.
Dog, Just wanted to check in with you. I have been having some technical issues of my own... but I will get your blog on my list soon :( sorry for the delay. Your blog is wonderful keep it up! Were are you in the frozen Tundra? You can email me directly if you would like at Sherizeee@yahoo.com :) We have snow coming AGAIN TODAY!
JudithKB and Sherizeee-Thanks so much for your very supportive comments!
Sherizeee-I believe I may be near you as I saw on your blog your husband was/or is at Open Circle? My husband used to go to Open Circle in Hopkins on Saturdays. Unless there's more than one? I'll jot down your email.
Dog & Sherizee, I'm looking forward to having an opportunity to get together with you two. Even if summer never comes to Mpls, at least we'll be able to commiserate together!
dog The recent posts on your blog are so right on! I cried when I read yesterday's posting "I remember" particularly when I got to the "still remember the smile on his face the day we were married". My husband still knows who I am, but the last time we went to visit my father (who has LBD) I thought that my DH was in worse shape than my father. I applaud you for being able to write through your pain - {{hugs}} to you. Bonnie
Thanks so much for your very kind and thoughtful comments. I believe I've had a lot more bottled up inside than I realized' and I am glad I found a vehicle for releasing some of it (whatever it is!)
Sending you hugs, as well, as you care for both your husband and your father. Not an easy road.