we had a rough couple of weeks a week or so ago our neice who has been married for 27 yrs her husband told her he was done had a girlfriend and didnt want her back he pushed for her to come to florida to be with us my husband with alzheimers decided she needed to come her so tickets were bought with money we couldnt afford to spend for her so she wouldnt do harm to herself she came and didnt want to leave we are in a trailer park and cant just move someone in i asked her to let me know when she was ready to go home she told me a time so we bought the ticket tried to build her up her kids kept asking her where you going to live when you come home messed with her constantly tore her down she cried all day every day the last 3 days she was here didnt want to go but with him as he is and her crying i thought i was losing my mind she finally went home to a family that didnt want her there and cost us 350 that we could ill afford to spend what is wrong with people no offer to reimburse i was against this for the record running away isnt an answer, then my son who decided to move to florida at the same time as us didnt follow rules as far as when he got into trouble as teenager that follows him for life he has to register in a short time and follow deffinate rules to stay out of trouble .he didnt procratination isnt your friend we were asked to show a united front when he went to court we did against my better judgement and my husband fell apart i dont get that he has problems with memory but insist on letting us get into these positions i finally had to put my foot down no helping people who can and should be helping themselves i feel we are being taken advantage of mostly i can head somethings off but this was a winner
I am glad you are putting your foot down--more power to you. But who is controlling the money? I hope it's you, it better be you. Her husband should pay for her tickets--and whatever else--instead of spending it on his girlfriend. She's still HIS responsibility--divorce or not. Good grief, you don't need any of this, your hands are full and then some.
Linda - As much as you may not want to it sounds like time to take care of the money yourself. My experience was not as involved as yours but did cost us some money we could have used. My dh bought an old used car for our daughter. It was a real lemon to begin with added to that she is on partial disability and doesn't work so we were responsible for insurance, etc. The car didn't last anytime before it needed repair and then she was always out of gas. Eventually it was sold for junk - which it was to begin with. That is when the money became my responsibility totally. Good luck.
all they wanted was her gone my husband later spoke to hers and he told him he cheated and he would do it again he is done so my husband got scared her father his brother died in 2000 and he is afraid of letting his brother down my husband did the tickets but i will not let him again i was against it from the first but pushed me into letting him and her husband will never pay even if he wanted to and he dosent . i feel taken advantage of she had been here for a visit in january and i couldnt wait to have my home back her daughter called and told him she was going to kill herself so he got scared but no more im done as they say stick a fork in me
You need to stand your ground. I know it is not easy but you need to for you and your husband. You may have to intervene so they don't go crying to him. Next time someone is threatening suicide, call the suicide hot line -give them the info and let them see if it is serious or not.