ok abby*, then i thought i had deferred my poop queen title to someone else lately!! but if not the case and nobody wanted it, then ok coco and shirley. i am ready to light that first candle for this awesome birthday cake. happy birthday to you gals!! a beautiful white cake all decorated in st paddys green flowers and shamrocks just for you leprochauns! striking the match, lighting that little green candle.... someone else will light the next, and when everyone is done, then we will cut that yummy cake and toast in champagne flutes to everyone here, for a job of caregiving well done to all.!!! hugs to everyone who celebrates a birthday.:) divvi
gosh..it is still a few days away, this Sunday the 17th. How very kind of you all. Not sure how many candles with the two of us, but mine will add up to 58. You have 4 more days!
The only plans I have are the fun on here, and picking up my sweetie pie to go eat cookies on the beach.
Oh, I posted several days ahead, thinking that maybe some would like to post but not be available or on the site between yesterday and the day of the actual birthday.
I thought it might take several days to build a cake of this magnitude because these are very special persons.
divvi, I must have missed the deferral but always will appreciate the help and advice you gave me.
Once I add my candles (81) the cake will have to be huge. Unless I bake one for myself, it will be the only one for me. Friends are all gone and family is all out of state.
I remember last year Coco and I were planning a huge bash. Dado was just beginning a mild decline and my dh could stay alone for a couple hours. This year things are so different for us. DH is still home with me but doesn't know who I really am, is mobile but can't be left alone at all. I will try a little daycare for him this spring. Hopefully he won't refuse to go. Sometimes I have that choking feeling so many of you have complained about. I think my physical stamina is waning.
Will do my best to enjoy my birthday by doing something for myself (if I can remember what that is).
Shirley, I'm a newbie here but I wanted to wish you a happy birthday. I know how lonely this life can be and I do have family nearby but our kids are young with children of their own and jobs, so we don't see them very often. It's not an easy road but I do hope you feel a tiny bit better knowing that the friends you've made on this site are sending good wishes to you today! And that includes me!
Hope you have a blessed day, and remember that many are thinking of you and wishing you all the best. By the way I love cake. Save me a big slice. Are we having ice cream too??? :)
Oh thank you all so much for your wishes, and Happy Birthday dear Shirley! I hope I can make it to 81 and be as nice as you are.
One of our wonderful members sent me some thoughts from a site called Widows Christian Place, thank you you know who you are . I googled it today and found this beautiful comforting passage, and it warmed me so.
In Time of Sorrow...
May you see God's light on the path ahead When the road you walk is dark. May you always hear, Even in your hour of sorrow, The gentle singing of the lark. When times are hard may hardness Never turn your heart to stone, May you always remember when the shadows fall— You do not walk alone.
It was something I desperately needed to hear. As today goes on, I am going to try to change my hard heart, it is so closed and angry sometimes. And deeply sad despite all life's goodness . A wonderful day to you all too. You mean so much to me.
I wish I could make your load lighter, the road smoother and a day with no sorrow or hardness. All I can do is say a special prayer just for you but please believe it comes from the depths of my heart and soul. I can't forget your Dado either so I pray that peace will come to him and his suffering is not long. We are all in this together to help each other.
Beautiful passage Coco. Your heart isn't hard, it's just been overburdened for far too long. We will never be exactly who we were before the hell of Alzheimer's, but in your own time, you will find your way back to you. ((hugs))
Shirley your special prayer warmed me today. And all of you, so kind, soolow long time no see aloha my friend.
I picked up Dado and took him out for a picnic. We ate cake and sang Happy Birthday, I could see him following my cues. He had one of his better days so that was nice. Then when I dropped him off, the Filipino guys, about 5 of them , having their Sunday imbibing at "Dado's place", well those sweet guys all got up and gave me a hug. That rag tag bunch of coffee farmers and rooster chasers, so precious.
Nikki I have read that passage a few times today, and it just chokes me up everytime.
SEE YOU NEXT YEAR Shirley at the annual St. Patricks Day. Abby* what a beautiful party you threw for us.