I swear, on top of everything financial, tonight I went to the cabinet to pull out a glass plate to give my cat Katrina a little ham treat. I crumbled up the ham onto the plate, then noticed little black specks and something else. Well, what I identified was left over salmon my husband had grilled night before last. Instead of putting the dirty dish in the dish washer, he had put it back in with the clean plates. I asked him about it. Well, I did eat the leftover salmon, maybe I did that, what's the big deal, just rinse the ham off.
I am now officially in the loony bin with everyone else. What the heck is next? I've read all those stories about spouses putting things in weird places, but hey, I thought I was WAY far away from that.
So glad just to type this in. If I were to email a friend they would have no idea. I just acted like, no big deal, so you put a plate that has had FISH on it in with the clean dishes. I thought I smelled something strange in the kitchen today. Give me strength.
Oh Val.....your "fun" is just beginning.....I found used toilet tissue in the refrigerator and in the cabinet with clean dishes.....why he couldn't just drop it in the toilet was beyond me. I look back and wonder how in the hell I ever made it thru all of it......big hugs.....
I have not yet read this book, but the title is so appropriate to your post - "Ice Cream in the Cupboard" by Pat Moffett It is the story of her and her husband's journey through AD.
You can read more about it by copying and pasting this link:
earlier in th Dx dh would still go grocey shopping with me and enjoyed the finer things in life:) on one particular morning i found him shaving with the whipcreme can instead of his normal shaving white stuff:) the cans looked the same i guess) the gillette was in the fridge. divvi
Dirty dishes in the cupboards? That sounds familiar. Last winter, a folder of insurance papers disappeared. I tore this place apart looking for it. In the spring when I got into the garden shed to prepare for some gardening, Lo and Behold! There was the folder--no real worse for the wear--in a box of garden supplies. Things eventually do surface. However, if we are 'purists,' and don't want the dirty dishes mixed in the the clean ones,....what can I say.
However, the thing that really got to me was when the dishewasher was full. And I in my infinite wisdom, asked DH to add the detergent and turn it on. (This was a while back. I'd never do it now.) He added liquid dishwashing detergent to the machine and turned it on. That was an experience and took a lot of time to clean up. I was so upset I didn't dare speak. Sheeze--The floor got really clean too so I guess there was a bright side to it. Poor guy. He was so embarrassed!
Thanks Joan, but I think I get the idea w/out reading the book. I'm waiting for yours. :-)
It was all so much in the past few days. No rages, but the evidence that something is SO wrong. It's worse than the rages.
Oh my goodness, what surprises do I get to come home to after the kiddies? A new credit card that I will be responsible for, or ice cream in the cupboard? I even worry about my cat. He broke a plate, (seems to break a lot of plates/glasses, I haven't broken one), cleaned it up, but forgot to put the cat food back after he cleaned it up. Also, he shut the door to the downstairs bathroom where her litter box is. Thankfully, I discovered it. I guess I need to put the litter box in the empty guest room. But who knows, he may close that door too. Unintentional cat abuse. He loves her too.
Divvi, I think I would have really freaked out. Like a salmon plate in the cabinet is not enough to do that.
I just ask, what would I be doing now, if I had not found this site. I swear, someone would have had to have hospitalized me.
I finally figured it out. When I can't find something I look in our bed. Yep..the remote control, mail, my wallet. Sometimes I find things I am not looking for...like trash he takes out of the waste basket. Gross!!!!
Mawzy, Your post got me to laughing. My mother, who had never had a dishwaser, did the exact same thing, and SHE WAS IN HER RIGHT MIND. Bubbles all over the place. I bought her a coffee maker, and I swear, she somehow blew it up. High tech was not her specialty.
How would you like to come home from work to this: hubby had microwaved for an unknow time a container of chopped liver I was going to use for a party. He had forgotten it, the container exploded and the entire oven looked and smelled like poop. I found it many hours later.
It's true...AD is indeed catching...DD sprayed hairspray on herself the other day. When it smelled funny, she looked, and she had picked up the can of Lysol by accident!
I've seen the toilet paper issue a couple of times on other posts, and we had it too. They get to a point where they will put toilet paper (oh, yes, used) ANYWHERE but the toilet.
And shredding paper...don't get me started. One night DD finally got some sleep after gating DW in her bedroom. DD came in the next morning to get the day going, and found DW asleep on the floor, curled up, in a big nest of shredded toilet paper! DD said she looked just like a giant hamster!!!!
Thanks for the laugh. It gives me somthing to do while my DH is going from his chair to bed every five minutes and saying "Fran help me" (don't I wish I could) - think about hair cream and toothpaste and shredded paper and having a laugh.
The garden hose in the hamper, TV guide rolled up in his shoe, toothbrush sticking out of shirt pocket at the mall--and prunes in the dog dish. You all bring back such fond memories and thanx for the laughs.
Our lates is not shutting off the water after he washes his hands in the bathroom. We have 2 bathrooms, the other night, I tried to get hot water to wash my face before bed, and there was none to be had. Oh dear, what's the matter with the hot water heater. Oh, the water is all used up. In the other bathroom, the hot water is running full force. thank goodness the sink didn't clog.
My husband wouuld leave the water running when he watered the garden and completely drain our well - it always took at least 24 hours before the water would come back - no toilet, no shower, no washing dishes.
He was a general contractor and had a workshop full of really expensive tools that he took better care of than me and the kids! I would get yelled at when I left a shovel out over night. When he got AD, he started "organizing" his tools by scattering them all over our acre property where they lay and rusted for 2 years. At first I would put them back, but he would just get them out the next day. Finally I locked the workshop and he ripped the door off its hinges to get in!
He washed my brand new, programmable coffee-maker in hot soapy water in the sink.
Oh dear....that is almost like the time that my husband took just a little water and a whole bunch of the cleaner Spic N Span and decided to wash our expensive oak kitchen cabinets....needless to say they didn't take kindly to their scratchy bath. The cabinets are now painted a cheery white....I can't begin to tell you how much money I have spent to fix what he took care of....
I had a programmable coffee pot washed in hot soapy water too. I found out the next morning when it wouldn't turn on. I mentioned that may be it got water in the controls when he washed it down the previous afternoon. He told me that he put the entire pot in the water. He didn't think it would hurt anything. At the time, I didn't think much about it. It just seemed odd that he would think it was fine. It still works. I have to unplug it every time and wiggle the little button back and forth. I have tnought about getting a new one but figured, since it still works, I'll keep using it.
chris and all others with running water problems. I put this in 'sundowning' but I found the Touch-Free Faucent on www.thinkgeek.com for $38.99. If you haven't been following this, I have something called a 'water straw' that I got for $9.99 that you touch to get the water on and it turns itself off. I can't find anything like that on line - but this other product might work for those of you with 'faucet problems'...
Here's what I think frand was talking about http://www.stoveparts.net/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=stoveparts&Product_Code=PLB-01143 PatB
PatB -That's it! How in the world did you find it? Now, if anyone wants to google QuikFlo there is a better picture and description. So, now we have options - like mine or at twice the price the Touch-Free. What a team we make! (I still think I paid $9.99 for mine, but maybe I'm wrong...)
Val-your comments brought back to me so many incidents having struggled with your similar problems-I would find milk in the cereal boxes! To those who were talking about water problems. My spouse pushed aside the faucet at the laundry sink (thinking he had turned it off) and went outside with his bucket of water to water the rhubarb patch about a half a block away. I had gone for a walk thinking all was in control and when I got back he met me saying"Boy , you've got a mess in there!" There was about 2" of water on the laundry room floor, it was going into the kitchen and into the bedroom (carpeting there).In the basement directly below it was dripping from the ceiling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who knows how long he lingered at the rhubarb patch while the laundry room was filling up with water!!!!!!!!!!! Took me a long time to laugh about that one. You will get through this!!!!!!!!!!
As I was reading these comments, I was thinking well at least he hasn't put anything where it doesn't belong. I then went to put clean underwear in his chest of drawers, and what do I find his "Dirty Underwear from the night before.
Sandy - LOL!! "You've got a mess in there!" That's hilarious!! Not if happening to me, of course, but hilarious to laugh about looking "in" from the outside!! Here's one: We are having "constipation" troubles & yesterday had my DH all set up on the toilet & he was "going"...well, I went in to check on him a bit later & lo & behold, he was standing in the middle of the bathroom & a HUGE TURD was laying on our throw rug we keep by the tub!! OKAY...let's pick that up & put it where it goes! HA! It's not funny, but you have to laugh...to keep from crying!!!
I know! I was so bummed out when I started this thead, then it turned into great fun. Spent my day on shopping therapy today. 75% off sales everywhere. Didn't give one single thought to dementia. Bluedaze, you KNOW you are funny!
Tonight, since my husband went into a rage last time he thought I needed to tell him about his email messages on the computer (his) I asked him if he had returned the calls to the 2 people who had called. "Well, one came by to see the house, no interest." What about the guy? "What guy?" First it was, "yes I talked to him." Then "I didn't get that message on MY computer." "Are you talking about a message left today?" YES. So we headed up to look at his computer, OH, he now remembered talking to him. He can't "remember all these calls that come in." Goodness. Which is it, you talked to him or didn't?
We grilled salmon again, & honey, don't you know I watched where those plates went after dinner. The dishwasher is running.
Can't wait for the dirty underwear in the dresser drawer. :-)
Oh, forgot to add, in our "conversation," my husband mentioned a bachelor client who had no dining room table. I told him, we don't have a dining room table either. He said, we do, it's in storage. It's YOUR FAULT we don't have a dining room table, because you wouldn't pay the $600 to have our stuff moved out of storage. (Never discussed.) He's been paying $200+ for over a year for that storage.
Well,.....in the "old days" that would probably be last month or so, I would have argued that I never wanted to put this house on the market, YOU are the one who failed to get the house up to par to have the inspection go through, making us needlessly move into an apartment, which then caused me to spin into a depression. etc. etc. But no, Val has learned to keep her mouth shut. Ha! If he only knew what I have learned in terms of coping skills on this site. It would have been a total waste of time & energy, he would have become upset, and I would have been depleted. Now I'm just going to find a good movie to watch. And eat some chocolate.
I'm ahead of y'all when it comes to picking up the throw rugs, even though my husband hasn't had any accidents yet. My cat decided the throw rug by my toilet was an excellent place to have large hairballs. Which I discovered in the middle of the night, in the dark. After the third time (I'm a slow learner), throw rug is now kaput.
Sunshyne-I assume you were barefoot when you discovered the goodie. That has happened to me during the night too many times. Gave up all throw rugs. Actually-now I know why they are called throw rugs ;-)
ok, devils advocate here,i love throw rugs:+) when you have white carpets thruout your house, having them in strategic placing can save LOTS of work. ha. its much easier to wash throw rugs than getting my shampooer out!i buy them the same color as the carpets-tons of them so i can wash daily or sometimes hourly??i have a female chiahuahua that has her 'own' throw rug in the laundry room,to use instead of my carpets which she has become accustomed to pee on- i hose hers down outside:) TGoodness , thing is now DH has commondeered her rug for himself to use..he peed on her while she was ON it. awwww... who said life is grand???????..divvi
I have to shake my head at some of the antics he comes up with- and have shared far too many personals here i know-but you know at this stage of the game nothing-nada-zilch- surprises me anymore. if i can only offer one shred of advice during all these yrs of doing this- about how strange and malicious this disease can get,- its TRY to never lose your sense of humour or you are done for. and believe you me, not everything is quite a laughing matter -divvi
Sunshyne, could I recommend Purina special formula for hairballs. It is a hard food. But the only time I took my cat off it for 2 weeks, was the only time she had a hairball. And that thing was enormous. I swear it was 6 inches long. I had taken her to the vet, she wasn't feeling well, they couldn't find anything, then the evil thing came out of her body. She is a long haired cat, and she loves this food. Thank goodness.