Ever the optimist, I hope for a happy new year for all of us. We need to find happiness for ourselves and our spouses in any way we can. I invite you to log onto the home page - www.thealzheimerspouse.com - and read my New Year's Blog and remember those listed In Memoriam.
Also, I wish all of the caregiver and their spouses a Happy New Year. And, a very Happy New Year for the widows and widowers who will be on their journey to seek a new life without their mates. May all of you know that you are loved and supported in your journey.
Joan, have you thought about eventually moving closer to your dear Sister? I read your blog about being all alone now, and wanted to say that when you write about being with your sister and her family, you sound so happy. The baby seems to give you as much joy as if it was your very own grandchild. I wish I had a sister like yours. Someday, I'd like to know more about her! She sounds wonderful!
Joan, I was very sorry to read about your father passing. I hope you have a better year in 2013. Also, please add me to the list of those who lost a loved one in 2012. My husband died in October. Thank you for all you do for us.
Joan, Yes I am taking your advice. I placed my husband in respite this weekend even tho he begs me not to and tells me he can stay by himself. We moved to a condo 5 years ago so most of my outdoor maintenance is taken care of. Next up to place him in assisted living. Again part of me tells me he looks so good, is still walking and talking and knows me. But I am taking your advice. There are so many things he cannot do--he refused to attend daycare, cannot shower or dress himself, is starting incontinence, cannot drive, does not know the grandchildren, cannot get himself anything to eat or take his medications. I have to face the Medicaid thing-I hope they approve because again he "looks so good" still. After a weekend of respite, I feel refreshed and renewed. It was only for 2 days but worth every penney. If anyone of you out there is considering respite but have not done so, please love yourself enough to pay the money and do it. It feels like you are let out of prison or at least that is how I felt. Next week I am calling another assisted living facility for a tour. the journey continues. Happy New Year everyone.